Forgiveness Divine

Forgiveness is a “giving” space…

Forgiveness Divine

“To err is human, to forgive, divine.”~Alexander Pope

I recently received an email from a client asking how we can energetically ask for forgiveness from others.

The example she cited was about overreacting and using harsh words with a colleague while under pressure. To add to her angst she lost touch with colleague years ago. She wanted to say she was sorry even though she apologized after the incident because she still felt bad about what happened. She was also concerned that even if she did find them they may not want to talk to her at all let alone about something that happened years ago.

We’ve all been there…

What a great question and example! We’ve all been in that position at one time or another, haven’t we? We hold on to “feeling bad” about something we did or said for hours, days or, in some instances, years. We want to talk about it and keep apologizing to that person or for the situation ad nauseam waiting for someone else to forgive us and we just can’t let it go even if they do.

The reason we hold on to that less than loving feeling is not that the other person hasn’t forgiven us (maybe they have or maybe they haven’t…that’s for another blog) but because at some level, we can’t or don’t want to forgive ourselves.

Here’s the thing, on an energy level there is no asking from others. It’s about forgiving ourselves. Once we forgive ourselves it’s even possible that we cross paths with the other person so we can apologize. Isn’t it wonderful when the universe works that magic? If it does happen you see them let’s be clear it is never about “asking” for forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a “giving” space, not an “expecting” or needing a “response” space…

Others don’t have to forgive you. It’s not up to them. If you apologize wanting a particular response that is not forgiveness. That is an expectation which is a form of resistance. Also, why would someone else forgive you for that which you cannot forgive within yourself? Even if they do forgive you or they forgave you long ago that “feeling” will still linger because YOU still have to forgive YOU.

It doesn’t even matter if the other person accepts your apology. Forgiving is a giving space and when and if they choose to forgive they are giving and allowing a space for themselves as well.

I once had an ex who, after 18 years with no contact, called me to apologize “for everything” he ever “did” to me in our relationship. In fact, his first words were “please, don’t hang up.” While I appreciated the call to no end all I could do was laugh.

For the most part, I had forgiven him, and myself, long before that call. He held on to the guilt all those years. I will say it there was deep healing that happened on that call for both of us. I watched his energy and subsequently my energy completely shift as we released the remaining karma that at some level we both held on to.

Forgiveness is not a thing you “do”…

It’s a space you create FOR giving. You’re giving yourself space to make mistakes and to be less than perfect. A space to be where you are. A space to learn and heal. A space to recognize where you are and are not aware. A space to let go. and most importantly you’re giving yourself space to love again.

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”

~Steve Maraboli

The truth is that any “non-forgiveness” is about you. It’s also where your energy is stuck in the past. How can you move forward with your energy stuck in the past? If you’re one of those people who cannot forgive yourself take a moment to really break it down to the bare bones. Why can’t you forgive yourself? Is there guilt or shame or some other emotion that causes you pain? What’s really going on?

It’s important to note that we do not go into a state of harsh words or react in a less than loving way without some sort of picture or energy that got lit up. Maybe you lost your awareness or someone pushed a button and triggered something deep within your psyche. Maybe you experienced fear or a threat. Maybe someone jumped in your space or tried to control you or the situation.

Maybe all of it happened at once but none of it matters. It’s important to recognize what really happened and forgive that too. Not one of us is perfect so let’s stop blaming ourselves and holding on things in the past that hold power over us in the present.

Make your apologies to others and yourself by creating a space of love and forgiveness. That’s the only way to release and clear the Karma.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Sending Love is No Longer Enough….


The world we live in is changing rapidly and it is a challenge knowing how and when to respond when we see something we know is not right.

In the past, we may have silently sent love and light. We may have silently said prayers. Now, even though we must seemingly navigate in the dark without a clear guide, we cannot remain silent.

The following is Facebook post by my friend renowned Numerologist Alison Baughman. I echo her sentiments and wanted to share this important message.

“Recently I made a comment on Twitter after I read dozens of mean tweets about another person who happened to voice their opinion about Donald Trump. The only thing I said was that I was saddened by how uncivil the conversation was.

In a matter of a 24 hours, I was personally attacked and for whatever reasons these people felt the need to attack my looks, my work and my integrity. I wonder if people realize that words create Karma just as anything else we do? Social Media, coupled with a mentality stemming directly from this divisive election has become a cesspool . Many of us are saddened to our core about the negativity that seems to be intensifying and we struggle with how to conduct ourselves.

There comes a time where silence equates acceptance and agreement.
There comes a time where sending love and prayers is not enough. There comes a time where you have to stand up for what you believe in and become a spiritual warrior and fight the good fight.

We can start by standing up and being a voice against this bully mentality and if we see someone being berated on Social Media, do not pass by the conversation.
Say something.

“Don’t turn your face away.
Once you’ve seen, you can no longer act like you don’t know.
Open your eyes to the truth. It’s all around you.
Don’t deny what the eyes to your soul have revealed to you.

Now that you know, you cannot feign ignorance.
Now that you’re aware of the problem, you cannot pretend you don’t care.
To be concerned is to be human.
To act is to care.”~Vashti Quiroz-Vega

I hope you will consider forwarding this piece to your circles. We need each other and we must speak up and meet bullies with love. As Alison said “if we see someone being berated on Social Media, [I will also add-if you see someone berated in public] do not pass by the conversation.”

Ask for the help of those around you. Just today I saw another post where someone spoke up and asked for help from those around him. He said he felt like he had bonded with the others who immediately supported him.

It’s really true that once you’ve seen, you can no longer act as if you don’t know and it’s also true that once you are aware of the problem, you cannot pretend you don’t care. This is no longer a world where we have the luxury of not getting involved. It is no longer someone else’s problem. We must meet the bullying, berating and hate head on by speaking up with awareness, compassion and love.

Of course speaking up is scary but as my dear friend Jackie pointed out “To ask for help is courageous. To receive the help gives strength.” Yes we are navigating on unfamiliar ground but it’s not really dark. There are lots of stars to light our way.

If you feel like you need help and support, reach out to me. Reach out to Alison. We are here to support your journey.~Shine Your Light Debbie 
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Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant Visionary, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

Alison Baughman is a professional Numerologist, author, lecturer and hosted “Visible By Numbers”, a weekly talk radio show about Numerology on BBS Radio. Besides a lifelong study of Numerology, Alison has continued her studies with a wide range of Metaphysical subjects. She is a Reiki Master and author of the best seller “Speaking to Your Soul Through Numerology” available on Amazon. You can reach Alison via her websites or