LettingGo – Page 7

Are there things you’d like to create or changes you’d like to make in your life and no matter what you do, focus on or think about nothing seems to change?

If things aren’t moving along the way you’d like them to, it is time to take a look at where you are standing in your own way! You may even be asking how is it or why you would be standing in your own way.

There are many instances where it is possible to stand in your own way and not even realize it. One of them is wanting things to change but not taking responsiblity for where you are and what you can do to create that change. Whatever your situation, you are never powerless!

In some cases you may be holding on to an ideal (perfect picture) and not willing to let it go. I see this a lot when it comes to relationships or lack thereof. When you hold on to something (or someone) for dear life, you are standing in your own way by not allowing the potential of something you really want to come in!

It is also time to let go of the blame game. You know that game. It’s your mother’s or father’s fault, it’s how you were brought up, it’s someone else doing it to you etc.

I don’t mean this to be harsh and that you should blame yourself but here’s the reality, if you want to create change, it is time to become conscious of those things that you have a stranglehold on.

What you choose to hold on to is you getting in the way of where you want to go. It is a choice to hold on. It is a choice to blame. It is a choice not to quiet your mind or take time to meditate and allow your life to unfold.

One of the most difficult things about “waking up” is that you begin to recognize the part that you have played in being where you are. It so many ways it is easier not to be aware.

On the other side of the spectrum, when you open up and recognize who you are there is no need to stand in your own way. Fear dissipates, forgiveness reigns and stumbling blocks become stepping-stones!

If you have a pattern of getting involved in the wrong relationships, where might you be standing in your own way? Are you trying to control something or someone? If so you are standing in the way of your own freedom!

If you are blaming, you have self-defeating thoughts or you are hiding, you are blocking the way for ease, happiness and success! How about a different choice…starting today!

Wake up! Change the dynamic! Get out of your own way and allow all those things you are wishing and dreaming, dreaming and wishing to become reality by merely stepping aside and allowing those magical moments to happen!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Remember the game “telephone” from when you were a child? That’s the game where one person whispers a sentence or two to another, then they whisper it to someone else and so on, until finally when everyone has told everyone else, the last person says the words out loud.

Perhaps I even as I described the game it gave you a chuckle. No matter what was whispered in the ear of the first person, the last person rarely had the words correct. If you remember, sometimes the sentence was complete gibberish and made no sense at all! 🙂

At the end of the game, everyone usually laughed as the person who made up the sentence(s) stated what it was supposed to be in the first place. Although it is a fun game, it clearly illustrates some of the challenges one can encounter in daily communications.

Have you ever had someone completely misunderstand something that you clearly stated? Of course there is the obvious thought that maybe you didn’t communicate clearly. It could also be based on the intent of the communication itself.

BUT it is also possible that the person HEARING what you were trying to say was hearing you through the “filters” of their own personal experiences! If this happens, not only are they are no longer “hearing” YOU but the communication stops.

Just like in the telephone game, they are hearing what they “think” they heard and while they are processing whatever button you inadvertently pushed, they can’t hear anything else.

When you are aware that this has happened, the tendency is to try to fix it or heal them to clear it up. The other thing that may happen is that you blame yourself. Either way, if someone can’t hear what you are trying to communicate, there isn’t anything you can say or do to clear it up in that moment.

So, what do you do if you feel someone has misunderstood you? Well, you can begin by forgiving yourself. 🙂 This is particularly important if you think you said something wrong! It is possible that you didn’t say anything wrong per se but that you hit an already tender spot (a picture they are working on clearing.)

The next thing you can do is to allow that person the space they need to process. If you try to heal them or fix it, in effect it’s like digging a hole for yourself. Keep in mind that whatever button you pressed, it’s theirs and you don’t have to be responsible for someones else’s “stuff”. 🙂

All in all just remember that you communicate based on your own personal experiences and others hear you through theirs. Be kind to yourself and those you are communicating with. Come from a place of loving intent and forgive yourself and others if things go amiss. Shine Your Light~Debbie

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping people heal their spirit so they can create and live the life they choose. She has been a featured guest on Wings of Love and Visible by Numbers radio broadcasts. For more information or to schedule a reading please send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com or visit her website.