Are You Asking the Right Questions?

Asking the right questionsHave you ever gone looking for an answer to something and no matter what you do, where you look or what you meditate on the answer never comes?

If this has ever happened to you (or is happening now) you might want to ask a different question; Maybe the question you’re asking isn’t really yours!

Now you might be wondering what I mean by “is (are) the question(s) really yours?” What I’m asking you to ask yourself is where are your questions coming from?

Are you asking questions out of habit? Is there programming in place that causes you to ask certain questions or go on a quest to find answers for someone (like a friend or family member) other than yourself?

As an aside, it’s also possible you are receiving answers to the questions you are asking but you don’t necessarily recognize that no answer is THE answer. A perfect example is if you are constantly asking yourself “what is wrong with me?” and you don’t get an answer. Could it be that you’re not receiving an answer because there’s NOTHING wrong with you? Yes, dear ones, in the world of “everything is energy” no answer might actually be THE answer!

If at first you don’t succeed…

When asking questions simply ask a question then allow it to lead you to another question and then another. You may find that when you allow your questions to lead you to other questions your next question might answer to your previous question!

If the same question keeps coming up over and over or you find yourself stuck or in effort, make it a point to change the question. For example if you’re asking why this or that is happening (or hasn’t happened) to you or for you, change the question to “what do I need to clear to create space or raise my having-ness” to move forward?”

This is where you might notice the question wasn’t yours in the first place. Try not to judge whatever comes up for you. Just notice your energy and your thoughts. As spiritual seekers looking to heal, whether you like the answer or not, you are receiving valuable information.

Ask the right questions and the answers find YOU!

All healing starts with not only asking the right questions but continually asking questions. In the grand scheme of things, you don’t know what you don’t know (none of us do) and how will you find out if you don’t continually ask questions? When you ask the right questions the answers WILL find you. Allow your answers to come without expectation OR resistance.

It’s best to be open, in neutral and set your intention to accept the answers even if you don’t necessarily like what they are. If an answer doesn’t seem to come or you feel stuck in a never-ending loop of asking the same question over and over, check to see where the question is coming from or if it’s even yours.

If it’s not yours, let it go and ask a different question. If it IS yours and you’re still stuck, look within to see 1. if you already have the answer but haven’t acknowledged it yet and 2. if you’re asking a question directly related to what it is you really want know. It might be that you’re afraid to ask because you’re afraid of what that answer might be.

When you ask the right questions, you will receive answers. You may find that your question keeps leading you back to you because really, you already have your answers. Your answers live in your heart, your mind and your curious spirit. Look inside! You have a treasure trove of answers just waiting for you!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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It’s All About Believing in Magic!

Inner Magic“Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen.”~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

There is power and magic in believing but this can also be a double-edged sword. Believing can also keep us stuck or in lower vibrations depending on what it is we believe.

As we move towards healing ourselves, one of the things we want to really get clear on is which of our beliefs are not really ours. How much of what we believe to be true about ourselves is energy, pictures or programming that came from others?  If we believe what we’ve been told is true, it is possible we are taking on someone else’s energy as our truth.

Where your beliefs came from doesn’t matter as much as the discovery of what is yours and what is not. Maybe someone once said you weren’t good enough. Maybe someone once said you were too fat, or too thin or called you ugly. Maybe you were so invalidated by someone, it affected your self-esteem. What you were told might be so deeply engrained that you’re no longer sure what is yours and what is not.

As you work towards finding your own truth, you unwind these beliefs or lies. It is then you begin to see yourself differently and, often, more clearly. Self-esteem and self-worth shift in a big way. When you truly believe in yourself magic not only can happen, it WILL happen!

If you have enough people sitting around telling you you’re wonderful, then you start believing you’re fabulous, then someone tells you you stink and you believe that too!”~Angelina Jolie

What we believe about ourselves is exactly how we will be. It’s also how others perceive us. This is why it’s so important to deconstruct our beliefs and make separation with that which is not ours. For instance, if deep down we believe we aren’t good enough, no matter what we do, we won’t connect with it as being good enough. The sad part is, until we release the belief we decided was true, no matter what others tell us or how much validation we receive, it will never be good enough because we believed someone else instead of listening to, feeling or connecting with our own truth.

There’s also an interesting dynamic where someone will tell you exactly how they feel about themselves. Listen to them! If someone tells you they are a “monster” or they are inadequate, or they don’t feel anything they do is good enough, no matter how bright their spirit, believe that what they are telling you is what they believe about themselves even if you see them differently. In essence, they are voicing the negative beliefs they hold about themselves and “feeding” the belief. The belief grows and is strengthened until eventually they BECOME what and who they tell people they are.

Seeing, feeling, thinking, believing – these are the stages of how we change our style on the outside and our self-image on the inside.
Stacy London

Personally I like to “believe” we all want to heal and work on ourselves at some level but if someone continually tells me what a monster they are, or they are not good enough, I’m going to have to believe them until they decide to change that belief or, of course, they ask for help changing it. How we feel and speak about ourselves is critical to our healing.

To be clear, I’m not talking about inflating egos, judging or conceit here. That’s for a different blog. This is food for thought so you can tune in more with yourself. Here are a few questions you can ask….

How do you speak about yourself to others? What do you believe about yourself that no matter how much someone tries to convince you otherwise you still feel bad or wrong deep down inside? Do you often not feel good enough or worthy enough?

The answers to those questions might very well lead you to a healing if you choose to release what is not yours and begin to connect with the magic that is! How will you know if it’s yours? Well, it feels…magical, joyful and more than that, it feels like YOU!

Great and magical things can happen when we live from a place of truth. Let go of being the person others told you you were and embrace the person you KNOW you are! “Magic is believing in yourself.” Bring in the sparkle and allow yourself to shine from the inside out!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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