Learning to Trust Yourself….

Pinkpetals© Joao Estevao Andrade De Freitas  Dreamstime Stock PhotosTrust yourself, you know more than you think you do.”~Benjamin Spock

Trust yourself and what you see, know and feel is true because there is no one who knows what’s best for you better than YOU!

From a young age we are taught that our parents know what’s best for us and, for the most part, at a young age this is true. In addition to our parents we have teachers and mentors whose principal role is to teach us how (and sometimes “what”) to think. At some point we must come to the realization that our parents, teachers and mentors were/are there to GUIDE us, not make decisions for us.

Why don’t we trust ourselves?

Why don’t we trust ourselves? The answer is simple, we made and continue to make mistakes. There’s that thing we did or said that went horribly, horribly wrong (or was perceived it went wrong) and before we move forward and possibly make another mistake, we look to another for THEIR answer. Isn’t it amusing that we trust other people and seek out their opinion about what’s best for us more than we trust ourselves.

It is far easier to take someone’s advice and not follow our hearts and intuition. After all, if we are wrong or make a mistake based on someone else’s advice there is someone to blame. When we fully trust in ourselves and our decisions we must then own up to and take responsibility for our choices.

There is another piece of the puzzle that we sometimes miss. Did we REALLY make a mistake or did things not turn out the way we thought they would? What if the perceived “mistake” wasn’t a mistake at all? What if those mistakes were really things that turned out unexpectedly right but we just couldn’t see the purpose at the time? We still may not see the purpose but in time, we will come to see the mistake was not really a mistake after all.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”~Golda Meir

At some point it’s time to trust yourself. You really do know more than you think you do. This is not to say you shouldn’t seek another’s council to help GUIDE you. The operative word being GUIDE. It is always beneficial to seek someone who may have a different perspective or a solution you haven’t yet discovered but in the end the choice is always yours and yours alone.

The more you trust your instincts, intuition and your knowing-ness the more certain you become.  The more you trust what you see and feel the more certain you become. The more you trust your decisions, the more certain you become. Trusting yourself is about “becoming” and believing in yourself. It is about strength, courage, truth and certainty.

There are infinite “inner sparks of possibility” that when fanned to burst into flames of inspiration. Learning to trust yourself means you may take a risk. You may find yourself vulnerable. You may find courage. You may create a masterpiece, and you may, you just may, find happiness, love and transform your journey and your life. Shine Your Light Debbie

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Say YES to What Supports You!

Healing Message“It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.” ~Edmund Hillary

Do you say “yes” to what supports you? Are you even recognizing support as support? Most of us don’t like to ask for help and support lest we seem weak and unable to support ourselves.

The reality is when you start recognizing and saying “yes” to those people or situations that are actually supporting you and saying “no” to those that don’t you are actually taking charge and supporting yourself in the process.

The universe is here to support you!

First and foremost the universe and your very spirit is here to support you but how often have you pushed away the seemingly inane experience which might actually be the very support you’re looking for? At first this may feel a bit like taking a leap of faith but a little faith goes a long way. When you meet challenges with faith and trust that you are supported and not alone you are starting to say “yes” to yourself. Saying “yes” to yourself is you trusting yourself and then you can start saying “no” to those things which don’t support you.

When a challenge be it emotional, physical or otherwise comes your way, take a deep breath, ask for support and be aware of the support that comes your way. Support is not support if you push it away or resist it. Support is not support if you’re not aware of it. Support is also not support if you’ve created a perfect picture or illusion of what you think it should be. Be open to the possibilities that come your way.

Keep an open mind to what you are receiving. Yes, there will be people and situations that come your which don’t support you but with an open mind give yourself complete permission to say no. With every opportunity that presents itself ask yourself ‘does this support me?’ and if the answer is YES then by all means say YES.

Conquer the mountain of ego and pride!

Most often it is our ego and pride which get in the way of our saying “yes” to support. We all want to be perceived as strong but how many of us really have it all together in perfect harmony? Stop worrying about how people perceive you. Send your ego and pride on a vacation and say “no” when they get in the way.

If you were starving and someone gave you a sandwich and cup of coffee would you say ‘no this doesn’t support me’ because it’s not a steak and glass of wine? If you didn’t have any shoes and someone offered you a pair would you say ‘no this doesn’t support me’ because the shoes don’t go with my outfit?

Those may seem like ridiculous examples but if you think back to a few of the things you said no to in the past, there are probably things that are similarly ridiculous. At the time you may have said ‘no’ because your ego and pride got in the way.  Ego and pride are the little voices that say the support that presents itself somehow diminishes you.

Conquer the mountain of ego and pride by making a mindful, conscious choice to say “yes” to anything and everything that supports you! If you really did said no because it truly didn’t support you, take note of what you learned from that experience. Just make sure ego and pride don’t get in the way of saying “yes”.

The universe and spirit are here to support you. Saying “yes” to those things which support you leads you to a place of being able to receive support which in turn brings you more support. Say “yes” to that which supports you and “no” to that which doesn’t.  Take a journey in YES and see where it leads! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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