Do You Trust Yourself?

Pinkpetals© Joao Estevao Andrade De Freitas Dreamstime Stock PhotosTrust yourself, you know more than you think you do.”~Benjamin Spock

Trust yourself and what you see, know and feel is true because there is no one who knows what’s best for you better than YOU.

From a young age we are taught that our parents know what’s best for us and, for the most part, at a young age this is true. In addition to our parents we have teachers and mentors whose principal role is to teach us how, and sometimes even what, to think.

At some point, though, we must come to the realization that our parents, teachers and mentors were, and are, there to GUIDE us; not make decisions for us. It is up to us to trust that we really do know what’s best for ourselves.

Why don’t we trust ourselves?

Why don’t we trust ourselves? The answer is simple. FEAR.  We made, and continue to make, mistakes. There’s that thing we did or said that went, or was perceived as, going horribly, horribly wrong and before we move forward and possibly make another mistake, we look to another for THEIR answer. Isn’t it amusing that we trust other people and seek out their opinion about what’s best for us more than we trust ourselves?!

It is far easier to take someone’s advice and not follow our hearts and intuition. After all, if we are wrong or make a mistake based on someone else’s advice there is someone to blame. When we fully trust in ourselves and our decisions we must then own up to them. We must take responsibility for our choices.

There is another piece of the puzzle that we sometimes miss. Did we REALLY make a mistake or did things not turn out the way we thought they would? What if the perceived “mistake” wasn’t a mistake at all? What if those mistakes were really things that turned out unexpectedly right but we just couldn’t see the purpose at the time? We still may not see the purpose but in time, we will come to see the mistake was not really a mistake after all.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”~Golda Meir

At some point it’s time to trust yourself. You really do know more than you think you do. This is not to say you shouldn’t seek another’s council to help GUIDE you. (The operative word being GUIDE.) There can be great benefits in that they offer you a different perspective. They might help you see a solution you haven’t yet discovered. They might even help you heal by (gently and compassionately) pointing out unfounded fears or insecurities; but in the end the choice is always yours and yours alone.

The more you trust your instincts, intuition and your knowing-ness the more certain you become.  The more you trust what you see and feel the more certain you become. The more you trust your decisions, the more certain you become. Trusting yourself is about “becoming” and believing in yourself. It is about strength, courage, truth and certainty.

There are infinite “inner sparks of possibility” that when fanned burst into flames of inspiration. Learning to trust yourself means you take a risk. You open up to being vulnerable but you also find courage. Trust yourself and you take charge of your journey and your life.

Who knows? When you trust your own council you may choose to create a masterpiece. You may choose to go on a great adventure. You may also experience limitless happiness, love and transformation. Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2016 All Rights Reserved

Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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Ready for Love? Take Down the Wall of Shame…

Tearing down walls to love“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”~Ann Landers

Love is what unites, walls are what separate. Why do we put up walls? What is it that causes us to feel fear or shame when it comes to our hearts?

Very simply, we put up walls because we are not perfect. We put up walls because other people might SEE we are not perfect. We put up walls because we don’t want people to see our pain.

Our hearts know no limits or boundaries. An open heart loves, is vulnerable and is not afraid to show imperfections. Not one of us is perfect and it takes courage to show our human-ness to others openly and honestly. We need not be ashamed of our bodies, our imperfections, our pain. We are human and our imperfections are as much a part of us as everything else.

At one time or another each of us has been hurt. Each of us has made a mistake. Each of us has experienced some level of fear around intimacy. We might think we’re being open but there are times we still hold back because we fear we will be judged or hurt in the process. We put up a “wall of shame” around our heart so others will not see us as “less” than. The problem is, the “shame” only exists in our minds and we’ve made it real! We’ve given it power. We’ve allowed it to build a wall that separates us from ourselves; Who we are and the love we are made of….

Shame is us judging ourselves and deciding we do not and will never meet the expectations of others. Shame says we are not good enough, our past was not good enough, we are not worth it and worst of all, our shame not only keeps others at arm’s length but it is the judgement of all judgments. We are judging ourselves so harshly we are deciding what (we think) is acceptable to others.

We may have been shamed as a child for doing or saying something wrong. We may have been shamed because something wasn’t good enough for our parents. We may have been judged harshly for not being perfect in an old relationship. We may judge ourselves for actions and mistakes we made in the past.

In many ways the “wall of shame” is a form of self sabotage. It stops us from fully experiencing and seeing the love we are. The love that unites us. It separates us and keeps us in a jail cell of self-judgment. It keeps us from fully loving ourselves and if we can’t fully love ourselves for who we are and make “allowances for human weakness” how can we possibly accept another openly and freely?

To truly love and be loved, we must take down the walls that separate us from the very thing we long for, the very thing we ARE. The walls we unconsciously, or sometimes consciously,  put up which seemingly separate us from others are really walls that separate us from OURSELVES! Be who you are. Love who you are. Take down the walls and let your love light shine!~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2014 All rights reserved
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