Do you have a Fear of Success?

Fear is a powerful energy that can stop you dead in your tracks. It is an energy that can run in the background without you even knowing it. It could simply be that little doubt in the back of your mind or on a larger scale, cause panic attacks, or self sabotage. Typically we delve into letting go of our fear of failure but there is another side to it; The fear of success.

Rather than focus on failure, it is helpful to focus on success. If you are focusing on failure, guess what’s going to happen? You are probably successful in many areas of your life but there’s this one thing….the one you want most which eludes you. Do you have a picture of what life would be like if you succeeded in that particular area? If you can’t see your success clearly it’s time to begin seeing yourself as successful! 🙂

Fear is a funny thing. Not the haha kind of funny but interesting to look at. If you’ve been unsuccessful achieving your dream there may be an underlying invalidation or a doubt in your mind that says you ‘can’t do it’ because you’re somehow not worthy or good enough to have it. There is also the ‘what will I do then’ thought. Oh yes, that one! If your focus has always been on say losing weight, what will you focus on once you hit your goal? If you’ve spent time and energy trying to ‘find the one’, what happens when you do?

If you succeed at the very thing you’ve wanted most whether it be happiness, love, a successful career, a family, it means life as you know it will completely change and you must focus your time and energy on something else. Many people (maybe not YOU but many people) are so comfortable in the seeking that just when success is in their grasp they quit because they don’t believe they can succeed or can’t picture what life will be like once they get it.

When you create a clear picture in your mind of having the relationship you want, losing weight, visualizing your book being published, painting or putting an idea on paper, a successful career, whatever it is for you, trust me the fear will come up! Just let it bubble up and then send it on its merry way! 🙂

Here’s where it get REALLY interesting=>Is the fear really yours? AH HA! Take everything I just wrote and throw it out the window because more often than not the energy of fear you experience IS NOT YOURS! In fact, any energy that doesn’t feel good, is out of your control or stops you from moving forward IS NOT YOURS!

Take a moment to ponder this. When you are successful in ALL areas of your life, it changes in ways you can’t even imagine. What does that mean for your friends and family? Might one or two of them be uncomfortable because they don’t feel successful in some area of their own life? Are you being ‘nice’ and not taking steps toward your success so others are comfortable?

I now recommend you take a deep breath! Let go of everything that just came up for you. Indeed it might not be a fear of failure that gets in the way but the fear of actually succeeding…and that fear might not even be yours so LET IT GO! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Marriage Vows for Spirit & Body

Falling in love and getting married is a wonderful thing. When you meet that special someone, stars shine in your eyes, your thoughts become romantic dreams, everything looks beautiful and all seems right in the world. As your love grows with each passing moment, you may make the decision to get married and spend the rest of your life together. Marriage is the commitment that says you will be together ‘until death do you part.’

Although ceremonies and vows differ by culture, religion or custom, wedding vows are promises; Commitments to love, honor and cherish, in sickness and in health, through good times and bad, for richer or poorer etc. It doesn’t matter if you marry using customary vows, write your own or make an agreement under the stars on a remote beach with just the two of you. You are pledging and proclaiming your love and commitment to one another by agreement. 

Marriage is a sacred space between two people both spiritually and physically.  A union that says you will journey together on the path of life. It’s interesting to note that most understand the concept of two people coming together in this way yet don’t consider the concept of body & spirit union and making those very same vows! OK I know, there should be a big ‘gotcha’ there 🙂

Your spirit and body are already in union and ‘until death do you part’ is pretty much a given but what commitments have you made to your body?  Do you  respect, love, honor and cherish it? Has what was once a wonderful relationship become stale and abusive or did you never really love your body because you were too fat, or thin, or your nose is too big etc? Are you constantly invalidating, judging, ignoring or punishing your body and seeing only the imperfections? If you are not loving, cherishing and honoring your body you are in an abusive relationship!

Commit to loving your body and re-new your vows!

This might seem silly but you only have one body and it really is ‘until death do you part’! Like any good marriage it takes commitment to caring for and loving it each day. Eating healthy foods, listening to your body and giving it what it needs, getting enough rest, daily exercise and pampering yourself are certainly all part of a life long marriage.

It’s not that you have to like every single part of your body, but it’s important to have and accept the body that your spirit co-habitats with.  Think of it this way, would you continue to live with someone or even have them as a friend,  who treats you like you sometimes treat your body? As spirit, you made an agreement to be born into this particular body, at this particular time, to learn certain lessons…yes YOU chose your body before you were born and it’s up to you to care for it!

Pronounce and proclaim your marriage!

Look in the mirror and say the following words or write your own as they apply to you:

“I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and listen to you all the days of my life. I promise to have respect and honor you, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”

Enough said 🙂 ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer and intuitive coach providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. Based in Chicago, Debra also leads meditation workshops that help people awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts. To schedule a session or for more information on readings and workshops please visit her website or send an email request to .