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Are you an out-of-control healer? Do you find you become responsible or blame yourself for other people’s feelings, reactions or experiences? Do you go into automatic healing mode with others who may not actually want it?

I stand before you with a confession; I am an out of control healer. Being an out of control healer was, and still is, very much a part of my own personal healing journey. Each time it happens I look inward to find the energy picture that causes me to get stuck in that space time and time again so I can I peel off yet another layer of “stuff” that I’ve taken responsibility for which is not mine.

How do you know if you’re an out of control healer?

Healing others and offering help is not necessarily being an out of control healer but you may be an out of control healer if:

you give away your energy and attention to those in need at the expense of your own needs
you become responsible for another’s experience, growth period, feelings or reactions
you blame yourself and constantly try to “fix” things outside of your control
you become an energy sponge for others pain
you try to “solve” everyone else’s problems or dramas
you continue to heal those who don’t want it and you go into effort trying to heal them
you only hear from so-called friends when they are having a crisis
you befriend every hurting soul you see

Those are just a few of the ways you can tell if you’re an out of control healer but why one does this is also important to look at. All healing is self-healing and there are those who don’t wish to take responsibility for their part in the drama or situations they find themselves in. If you continue to heal or give your energy and attention to them, they will become angry because in essence you are trying to “show them” and heal what they don’t want to look at within themselves. If you find yourself in a situation when you are doing this, look within yourself to see what it is within you causing you to snap into healing mode.

Use your experiences for self-healing

Every person will have a different set of energies or pictures but I wanted to share a recent discovery on my part after I was “blamed” for making someone feel inadequate. In a conversation I made an innocent comment about how I was “used to doing it differently” than how they did it. I then asked a question to clarify the different style. I was not trying to invalidate in any way yet I noticed the person’s pictures get lit up and I quickly went into healing mode. I took responsibility for everything she was feeling, blamed myself, decided I was a horrible monster of a person for lighting up her pictures in the first place then tried to fix it which of course didn’t work.

No one can “make” someone feel inadequate (or feel however they are feeling.) It is those places where they already feel inadequate that are coming up for them. One also can’t be responsible for lighting up the energies or pictures someone else is working on. It doesn’t mean I didn’t feel bad about causing someone pain because it, in fact, affected me rather deeply and it took hours before I was finally able to forgive myself and let go. I had to turn my attention within to find those places where I felt “inadequate”. I had to find those places within where I felt like I’d said something wrong and forgive myself for being human and occasionally saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I had to turn within, take responsibility and forgive myself for whatever part I played in it.

Life is not always about smooth sailing on calm waters and each of us can learn from every situation that is presented to us. If you are an out of control healer you are being shown all those places you can work on within yourself. Dig deeper into your inner world and uncover that which has been hidden or you haven’t wanted to look at until now. Forgive yourself for the part you played in the past and allow yourself and others to be where they are. How someone else is feeling is beyond your control. How someone hears you is out of your control. Someone who doesn’t want to heal is beyond your control. Taking responsibility and forgiving yourself for whatever part you played IS in your control and is also a part of your own healing process.~Shine Your Light

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Intuition is that ‘gut feeling‘ you experience. It’s the feeling that for whatever reason you should go left instead of right, not to go on the vacation you’ve scheduled or give you the sense that something is or isn’t right. Listening and following your intuition can guide you to your hearts desire or keep you out of trouble!

Intuition is a psychic ability that everyone has. It is more commonplace to speak of intuition than say mediumship or clairvoyance. In every day life you hear people who otherwise don’t ‘believe’ in their own psychic abilities say something to the effect of ‘I just felt like something was wrong’, ‘it felt like the right thing to do’, or ‘I went with my gut on it’. Paying attention to what your intuition is telling you increases your awareness of what’s going on around you. Like exercising a muscle, the more you use and follow it, the more it works for you.

Are you listening?

Consider your intuition a direct communication with yourself. You KNOW what feels right or wrong in a particular situation. You KNOW when you get that nagging feeling that it’s time to pay attention even if you don’t necessarily know what’s about to happen. If you get ‘red flags’ about something or someone your intuition is telling you something. Are you listening to it and letting it guide you or do you dismiss it?

“Intuition is a spiritual faculty and does not explain, but simply points the way.”~Florence Scovel Shinn

Using your intuition is indeed following what you sense whether you have the ‘facts’ or not. It is the ‘gut instinct’ that puts you on alert, calms your heart or allows you to change direction without having to know the exact outcome. You just have a sense it will all be good once you go with what you are feeling. It is not necessary to analyze it because most of the time what you feel and sense cannot be measured. Although it might not make any sense in that present moment what your intuition tells you will guide you on your journey.

“I rely on my instincts and intuition, and I feel it’s so imperative for people to follow not THE path but THEIR path.”~Emma Stone

Each of us is on a path and usually it’s not a straight and narrow one; There are twists and turns along the way and it is important to recognize if the path we are following is of our own making. I recently read a book which talked about the ‘heart knowing’ before we do. I’ve not only seen this in action but experienced it myself. You might not be conscious of it but following your inner guidance system leads you to the truth in any situation. Think of a time when you didn’t follow your intuition. How did it turn out? Did you spend time afterwards saying to yourself “I knew it!”

I can think of many instances in my life when my intuition was literally screaming at me and I didn’t listen. Now I listen and pay attention more closely to what it’s telling me. If nothing else I become acutely aware of what is going on internally so I’m able to make conscious decisions that are right for me instead of merely going along with someone else’s program.

Your intuition is like an internal GPS designed that will guide you in the right direction. The biggest challenge to following your intuition is trusting it and trusting yourself. This can take a bit of doing but it is very simply accomplished; By following it over and over. Pretty soon you will trust your instincts, trust that you are on the right path, you’ll make that call at the right time or change direction just because ‘it feels right’. Go ahead, try it! You KNOW it will guide you!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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