FREEDOM! – Page 6 – Daily Muse

“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.“~J. Michael Straczynski

Are you blaming someone or something for your current experience? Of course it’s THEIR fault! It’s the economy, family, your boyfriend or girlfriend, how you were brought up.. .who did it TO you. These are just a few of the “outer” situations or people we tend to “blame” when things become challenging in our lives. The problem is blame will never get you anywhere. Blame means a part of your valuable energy is stuck and holding on to the past. Blame means not taking responsibility for any part of the situation. It also takes forgiveness and healing out of the picture.

Blame is a way of rationalizing and making sense of chaos. It is far easier to blame others than to look inside and take responsibility for our part. The moment we stop blaming and start forgiving is the moment we start healing and moving on with our lives.

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”~Robert Anthony

In order to heal, create change, and move on with our lives we must take responsibility for our part. Now, I hear you saying you had no part in the creation of the problem (challenge or situation). I may not be very popular the moment I say you ALWAYS play a part in it but it IS the truth. Maybe you were (are) afraid. Maybe you were (are) not fully aware of your impact on the situation. Maybe you saw, heard or felt something through your filters.

Blaming others is not the answer. Blaming yourself is not the answer. These are never the answers because blame holds on to the past. The longer you “blame” the more the past gets embellished and the more energy you have caught up in a past that is no longer truth but an illusion.

Your true power lies in the ability to forgive others for their part and forgive yourself for your part. It may mean you have to forgive yourself for zigging when you should have zagged. It may mean you must forgive yourself for something you did or said in the past. It may mean you have to forgive someone who deeply hurt you. It may mean you must forgive yourself for being afraid or in resistance.

Regardless of what you find yourself forgiving, you’ll know immediately when you are free because it will feel like a weigh is lifted off your shoulders. You are able to look at the situation or other person without anger, fear or blame and you begin creating things and moving forward again.

“Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”~Erica Jong

It’s interesting to note the word “blame”. As written it looks like B Lame or more to the point B (eing) Lame. It takes a strong and courageous person to end the blame game and take their life into their own hands. It takes a strong and courageous person to forgive. One of the bravest things you can do is look in the mirror, accept you played some part and forgive yourself. Look in the mirror! Be brave! FORGIVE!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.”~Kristin Armstrong

Today I’m doing a much-needed “energy reorganiziation”. Won’t you join me in creating a new starting point for yourself? Let’s take pause, reset and open our hearts and minds to new possibilities!

As you may or may not know in addition to clairvoyant healing work I’m a Real Estate Broker . Yesterday I closed a real estate deal that took a more than 10 months to complete. Once the transaction was officially ‘closed’ a wave of relief washed over me and it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. It was at that very moment I realized how much of my energy I didn’t have access to because it was inextricably tied up in the deal.

What happened in those 10 months is a perfect example of what happens when we resist and try to control or heal those who are not only committed to holding on (not letting go), but choose to punish and blame everyone else in the process without taking any responsibility.

Here is a brief timeline of events. Put the 2 flat on the market in February and basically sold it in 7 days. Gave tenant legal notice to vacate even though at that point he didn’t have a lease. Although the tenant initially agreed to move prior to closing in March, he decided to stop paying rent and stay (as a squatter). Due to the tenant using the already lengthy system to extend his holdover it took more than 8 painful months (in court) to evict him.

Once the tenant was evicted, the buyer chose to punish the seller by not communicating for another month. Apparently she was “mad” it took so long to evict the tenant. (Eviction time-frames are up to the courts and totally out of the sellers control.) After finally establishing communication, the buyer cancelled the deal. The crazy part is the seller repeatedly offered to let her out of the transaction yet she decided to move forward until our side was ready to close.

There were challenges and lessons in patience at every turn. I realized that for 10 plus months a lot of my energy was caught up in healing the seller, anger at the tenant for not leaving and abusing what is clearly a broken eviction process and frustration with a manipulative buyer who ignored attempts to communicate.

Yes I was angry, impatient, frustrated and in resistance. So much for my zen, peaceful self!

While in the middle of it, I recognized my frustration, anger etc however I did not realize how much of my energy was tied up. This is very common and most times it takes a step away to finally see it. Once it’s seen we have the opportunity to do a little energy reorganizing; including releasing and calling back energy.

For my reorganization, I’m going to call back all the energy that’s still caught up in the deal. I’m going to look at what else or who else I am still healing. I will look to see where I’m angry at not being able to control circumstances beyond my control. I will ask the questions what am I holding on to and/or how am I using the “system” to rationalize my actions? Am I trying to manipulate and control because I’m frustrated?

When you use your experiences to ask questions, you instantly create a shift in your perspective by making it more neutral. You take ownership through acceptance. Looking at yourself first allows you to understand where others might be coming from. It allows you to forgive others for their actions and to forgive yourself for your RE-actions. It allows you to release the energy and pictures that caused you to try and control people or events and go into resistance.

Is there something or someone in your life that’s taking up your energy? Are you in resistance? Are you healing, punishing or blaming others? Wouldn’t you like your energy back so you have more to create with? If so, do a little reorganizing around yourself!

It’s time to create a new starting point, take pause, reset, and open our hearts and minds to new possibilities!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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