How do you want to be loved?

lovemoon“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”~Oscar Wilde

As human beings we all seek to love and be loved. Love cannot be explained, measured or seen. It is a feeling that comes from deep within our soul.

There is no greater power in the world than love. It makes us feel alive, makes our hearts sing and brings a sense of purpose and contentment.

We seek love and yet it sometimes eludes us. We have thoughts of what we think love IS. We have thoughts about what we think it should be but when was the last time someone asked you the question “how do you want to be loved?” Better yet when was the last time you asked yourself “how do ‘I’ want to be loved?”

I must admit that I’ve never asked myself this question. I know “who” and “what” I’m looking for but never have I explored HOW I want to be loved. When this very question was brought to my attention in a recent dance performance I attended called “The Seventh Love” (an original work written and directed by David Kersnar, performed by Natya Dance Theater)  I realized not only how important it is to ask but how profound and powerful it is in the asking.

How can you love someone the way they want to be loved without asking them the question “how do you want to be loved?” How will someone love you the way you want to be loved if you haven’t first asked yourself this question to really know how it is you want to be loved? How can someone possibly love you the way you want to be loved if you don’t first love yourself how you want to be loved?

The “act” of loving is different than the pure vibration of love that resides within each of us. Accessing our own unique vibration of love, being that love and allowing it to pour forth allows us to “actively” love ourselves and others. We show others how we want to be loved by loving ourselves how we want to be loved.

Pure unconditional love is a vibration filled with acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing. It is not until we connect with ourselves and the vibration that we can even begin to answer the question. The answer in “The Seventh Love” was as profound as the question. “By allowing me to love the way I want to be loved”.  Expression of divine inner love comes from a place of allowing yourself to love and be loved freely without judgement, attachment to an outcome or expectation.

How do I want to be loved? I want to be accepted for who I am and allowed to express that love without reservation. I want to be loved with respect and affection and allowed to love with respect and affection.  I want to be loved for the divine spark that resides within. I want to be loved freely, without judgement or expectation. As I love myself in this way I show others and it tells others how I want to be loved.

Romance your soul. Explore and discover how you want to be loved. Ask another how they want to be loved and allow them to love the way they want to be loved. Love YOURSELF the way you want to be loved and have a lifelong romance!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Love Begins WITHIN!

Rose2“Love  is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible – it cannot be seen  or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer  you more joy than any material possession could.”~Barbara de  Angelis

Love is indeed a force more formidable than any other. It has the power to change your life and outlook in an instant. Love is an energy vibration that cannot be seen but is felt at such a deep level that words cannot possibly describe the feeling effectively. The vibration of love is inherent in each of us. In fact we simply ARE love. It is our highest vibration! Why do we go outside ourselves looking for it when all we need to do is look inside, connect with and expand the vibration which we seek? Why not BE love and let love find YOU?!

Do you love yourself unconditionally? Do you even like yourself? If not, you may be looking for love in all the wrong places! Why is it so challenging to love ourselves? Why is it that so many times we don’t feel loved if we are not “in love” or loved by another person? It is not until you awaken your own love vibration inside and begin loving yourself that you will be able to experience true love.

Love begins within!

How can you even begin to love another or expect them to love you if you don’t love or even like yourself? Those judgements you hold against yourself cause you to unconsciously push others away. Of course there are always those things we want to work on to be better people. There are also those things we can work on to change our appearances but what if “body image” is not your real body but how you picture or see yourself? What if those places or things you don’t love about yourself are because you don’t see yourself as the bright. beautiful spirit you really are? Is it possible for you to love ALL of you, without judgement, warts and all?

There are great pressures in society today and it’s easy to forget that within you lies a treasure trove of love. You ARE love and it is only that you’ve gotten away from seeing yourself as you truly are. Your internal struggles show on the outside and those very internal struggles have often developed as a habit or you doubt your true nature because of judgement from others. It is only after you start to accept your humanity, forgive your mistakes and embrace the feeling that you are worthy of love that things will change for you. Did you know that the thing you seek most from outside world is the thing you have the most of inside? It’s true!

All those things that you resist or cannot accept or judge about yourself are resisted, not accepted or judged by others. Have you noticed any “patterns” or things that keep happening over and over in your life with regards to love? Patterns are the universes way of informing you that perhaps you haven’t learned the lesson or cleared the energy yet! But guess what? You can change those patterns, clear the judgement and resistance and love (and even like) yourself! For the most part it’s clearing those places you judge and resist.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”~Rumi

What barriers have you built against love? What unconscious walls have you built that stop you from seeing and experiencing your true and highest vibration of love? Loving yourself is not selfish nor is it ego based. When you find your natural love vibration it isn’t necessary to seek validation or push it on others. It will be seen and felt by others in your presence. Love shines through and touches everything you do. It oozes forth in the words that you speak and flows into your creations.

Perhaps it’s time you stop looking outside yourself? Take down the barriers! Love transforms you in a moment. Find yourself and you will find love. Experience being in the flow of love and love yourself. Connect with your spirit and divinity without resistance or judgement.Forgive yourself. Find a state of grace. Connect with yourself and see yourself as the love you are and BE  your highest vibration of love!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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