This morning I woke up not feeling like myself. I felt isolated, invalidated, alone, depressed and dizzy. All I wanted to do was go back to bed and the dreary weather here isn’t helping. I sat down to meditate and reflect on what was happening. After all it’s not “like me”.
As I quieted the incessant ‘buzz’ in my head I slowly returned to center so I could see clearly again. Then, like a lightening bolt, it hit me. The feelings of isolation, invalidation, depression, were energy and pictures I gave up space to. This happens to everyone at one time or another and we don’t always realize it while we’re not feeling good.
Everyone is affected when their pictures get stimulated and when you work with energy as I do the ‘triggers’ are magnified because often I’m working with clients to clear those very pictures. Pictures are memories or energy from the past and they may be triggered by friends, family or even a seemingly innocuous Facebook post. What happened to me is I allowed myself to get stuck in pictures of feeling alone, isolated and wrong. I started asking the question ‘what’s wrong with me’ over and over again.The more I resisted the more entrenched I became trying to ‘fix’ what was wrong even if I didn’t know what it was.
It’s just energy and you lost your space!
When I realized it was energy I needed to clear that became senior to my reality I was finally able to ground myself and see (and reconnect with) the truth. I’m not isolated and I’m not alone. There’s nothing wrong with me. (I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me.) I was feeling bad for others and in the back of my mind it seemed familiar rather like a deja vu. When did I experience this feeling before? Another lightening bolt! I felt this way growing up!
Have you ever said you “feel bad” for others? Better question…how many times a day do you say it?
Here’s the thing, when you “feel bad” for others to the point of actually “feeling bad” you have allowed their pain to become your own. What they are going through becomes “senior” or more important than your own reality. This happens because at some level it is what YOU are working on. It is the energy and pictures from the past you are stuck in and if you don’t take back your energy and seniority from your own pictures you begin to match and possibly take on energy from others until you do.
Take back your power!
Once I started to find my own pictures and take back my power I began to look at how much energy from others I had taken on as I was healing them. Trust me…it was A LOT! All those people I “feel bad” for. Not as in they are victims but that they are going through something painful which I recognize because I have gone through something similar.
To shift my energy I had to let go of “feeling bad”. After all what good is it if I match their energy and continue to feel bad? That comes under the guise “misery loves company”. No matter how long I’ve done healing work I continue to have to remind myself I am senior in my space and I slowly began to release the energy of others I had taken on by agreement. I also had to let go of all those painful memories when I felt bad and was feeling sorry for myself. I had to take back my seniority, my personal power, and return to the present and my vibration.
In the blink of an eye you can shift your energy!
If you’re “feeling bad” all the time check to see if someone around you is feeling bad and you’ve matched their energy. Notice if you’ve given your seniority to a picture or illusion of “feeling bad” from your past so much so that it’s become true for you now. Get real with yourself and acknowledge if you’ve healed others at the price of healing yourself. Find your epiphany about feeling bad for others and ask yourself if you really want to “feel bad” because someone else “feels bad”.
We “feel bad” when others are hurting but it’s important to realize we can hold their hand and comfort them but we don’t have to “feel bad” for them. Look at your own journey and heal yourself first. It shows others how to do it! If you really want to help others, shift your energy and raise your vibration. Take them by the energetic hand and raise them up! ~Shine Your Light Debbie
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8 thoughts on “An Epiphany About Feeling Bad for Others”
So very true! I am very empathetic, and sometimes it drains me. I am a chaplain at my church, so I have a # of people I pray with every month. Hearing their stories, I can always put myself in their position, even when it’s something I can’t personally relate to. It hurts to be that way. And you’re right it takes my energy away. I need to just be there for them, not with them.
Very powerful statement! “I need to just be there for them, not with them. 🙂
thank you for sharing. I felt this same way yesterday, I was freaking out and then realized that it was other peoples thoughts. As empath/Hsp I never realized the impact that others had on my energy field. Yesterday I probability would not have paid attention except my son said, I sorry your so angry. I looked at him and explained that I was not feeling that way. He then said, sorry again which then made me freak out and start thinking am I angry, which was followed by other emotions. Then It hit, it other peoples thoughts. Thanks to being the shower at time I then grounded myself, right there under the water. I also believe the Retrograde in working on bringing things to light sooner they we expected.
Yes Donna Mercury Retrograde is already in full force even though it doesn’t officially begin until Feb 6. It’s wonderful that when your son pointed out the energy you were aware enough to look at it for yourself to see what he was seeing. What a child sees and says is indeed a gift. 🙂
I agree with you thanks for share it you are right.
Great post! I have had this happen so much that I at one point thought I was an empath because I would take on others pain so literally in myself. I’ve learned to recognize it now though so much so that the moment I sense the feelngs I usually get an image of that person so I know whose energy I’m picking up. Once I learned this technique of recognition I found it doesn’t affect me as profoundly as it used to. I still have some days when I don’t pick up the clues right away but usually it doesn’t take me longer than an hour anymore whereas before I could sustain the misery for a whole day before I would clear it. Thanks!
Thank you! Good job!
Great post. Yes, very important to distinguish where the feelings are coming from.