CLAIRVOYANT – Page 18

“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.”~Kristin Armstrong

Today I’m doing a much-needed “energy reorganiziation”. Won’t you join me in creating a new starting point for yourself? Let’s take pause, reset and open our hearts and minds to new possibilities!

As you may or may not know in addition to clairvoyant healing work I’m a Real Estate Broker . Yesterday I closed a real estate deal that took a more than 10 months to complete. Once the transaction was officially ‘closed’ a wave of relief washed over me and it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. It was at that very moment I realized how much of my energy I didn’t have access to because it was inextricably tied up in the deal.

What happened in those 10 months is a perfect example of what happens when we resist and try to control or heal those who are not only committed to holding on (not letting go), but choose to punish and blame everyone else in the process without taking any responsibility.

Here is a brief timeline of events. Put the 2 flat on the market in February and basically sold it in 7 days. Gave tenant legal notice to vacate even though at that point he didn’t have a lease. Although the tenant initially agreed to move prior to closing in March, he decided to stop paying rent and stay (as a squatter). Due to the tenant using the already lengthy system to extend his holdover it took more than 8 painful months (in court) to evict him.

Once the tenant was evicted, the buyer chose to punish the seller by not communicating for another month. Apparently she was “mad” it took so long to evict the tenant. (Eviction time-frames are up to the courts and totally out of the sellers control.) After finally establishing communication, the buyer cancelled the deal. The crazy part is the seller repeatedly offered to let her out of the transaction yet she decided to move forward until our side was ready to close.

There were challenges and lessons in patience at every turn. I realized that for 10 plus months a lot of my energy was caught up in healing the seller, anger at the tenant for not leaving and abusing what is clearly a broken eviction process and frustration with a manipulative buyer who ignored attempts to communicate.

Yes I was angry, impatient, frustrated and in resistance. So much for my zen, peaceful self!

While in the middle of it, I recognized my frustration, anger etc however I did not realize how much of my energy was tied up. This is very common and most times it takes a step away to finally see it. Once it’s seen we have the opportunity to do a little energy reorganizing; including releasing and calling back energy.

For my reorganization, I’m going to call back all the energy that’s still caught up in the deal. I’m going to look at what else or who else I am still healing. I will look to see where I’m angry at not being able to control circumstances beyond my control. I will ask the questions what am I holding on to and/or how am I using the “system” to rationalize my actions? Am I trying to manipulate and control because I’m frustrated?

When you use your experiences to ask questions, you instantly create a shift in your perspective by making it more neutral. You take ownership through acceptance. Looking at yourself first allows you to understand where others might be coming from. It allows you to forgive others for their actions and to forgive yourself for your RE-actions. It allows you to release the energy and pictures that caused you to try and control people or events and go into resistance.

Is there something or someone in your life that’s taking up your energy? Are you in resistance? Are you healing, punishing or blaming others? Wouldn’t you like your energy back so you have more to create with? If so, do a little reorganizing around yourself!

It’s time to create a new starting point, take pause, reset, and open our hearts and minds to new possibilities!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”~Ann Landers

Love is what unites, walls are what separate. Why do we put up walls? What is it that causes us to feel fear or shame when it comes to our hearts?

Very simply, we put up walls because we are not perfect. We put up walls because other people might SEE we are not perfect. We put up walls because we don’t want people to see our pain.

Our hearts know no limits or boundaries. An open heart loves, is vulnerable and is not afraid to show imperfections. Not one of us is perfect and it takes courage to show our human-ness to others openly and honestly. We need not be ashamed of our bodies, our imperfections, our pain. We are human and our imperfections are as much a part of us as everything else.

At one time or another each of us has been hurt. Each of us has made a mistake. Each of us has experienced some level of fear around intimacy. We might think we’re being open but there are times we still hold back because we fear we will be judged or hurt in the process. We put up a “wall of shame” around our heart so others will not see us as “less” than. The problem is, the “shame” only exists in our minds and we’ve made it real! We’ve given it power. We’ve allowed it to build a wall that separates us from ourselves; Who we are and the love we are made of….

Shame is us judging ourselves and deciding we do not and will never meet the expectations of others. Shame says we are not good enough, our past was not good enough, we are not worth it and worst of all, our shame not only keeps others at arm’s length but it is the judgement of all judgments. We are judging ourselves so harshly we are deciding what (we think) is acceptable to others.

We may have been shamed as a child for doing or saying something wrong. We may have been shamed because something wasn’t good enough for our parents. We may have been judged harshly for not being perfect in an old relationship. We may judge ourselves for actions and mistakes we made in the past.

In many ways the “wall of shame” is a form of self sabotage. It stops us from fully experiencing and seeing the love we are. The love that unites us. It separates us and keeps us in a jail cell of self-judgment. It keeps us from fully loving ourselves and if we can’t fully love ourselves for who we are and make “allowances for human weakness” how can we possibly accept another openly and freely?

To truly love and be loved, we must take down the walls that separate us from the very thing we long for, the very thing we ARE. The walls we unconsciously, or sometimes consciously, put up which seemingly separate us from others are really walls that separate us from OURSELVES! Be who you are. Love who you are. Take down the walls and let your love light shine!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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