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Fear is a powerful energy that can stop you dead in your tracks. It is an energy that can run in the background without you even knowing it. It could simply be that little doubt in the back of your mind or on a larger scale, cause panic attacks, or self sabotage. Typically we delve into letting go of our fear of failure but there is another side to it; The fear of success.

Rather than focus on failure, it is helpful to focus on success. If you are focusing on failure, guess what’s going to happen? You are probably successful in many areas of your life but there’s this one thing….the one you want most which eludes you. Do you have a picture of what life would be like if you succeeded in that particular area? If you can’t see your success clearly it’s time to begin seeing yourself as successful! 🙂

Fear is a funny thing. Not the haha kind of funny but interesting to look at. If you’ve been unsuccessful achieving your dream there may be an underlying invalidation or a doubt in your mind that says you ‘can’t do it’ because you’re somehow not worthy or good enough to have it. There is also the ‘what will I do then’ thought. Oh yes, that one! If your focus has always been on say losing weight, what will you focus on once you hit your goal? If you’ve spent time and energy trying to ‘find the one’, what happens when you do?

If you succeed at the very thing you’ve wanted most whether it be happiness, love, a successful career, a family, it means life as you know it will completely change and you must focus your time and energy on something else. Many people (maybe not YOU but many people) are so comfortable in the seeking that just when success is in their grasp they quit because they don’t believe they can succeed or can’t picture what life will be like once they get it.

When you create a clear picture in your mind of having the relationship you want, losing weight, visualizing your book being published, painting or putting an idea on paper, a successful career, whatever it is for you, trust me the fear will come up! Just let it bubble up and then send it on its merry way! 🙂

Here’s where it get REALLY interesting=>Is the fear really yours? AH HA! Take everything I just wrote and throw it out the window because more often than not the energy of fear you experience IS NOT YOURS! In fact, any energy that doesn’t feel good, is out of your control or stops you from moving forward IS NOT YOURS!

Take a moment to ponder this. When you are successful in ALL areas of your life, it changes in ways you can’t even imagine. What does that mean for your friends and family? Might one or two of them be uncomfortable because they don’t feel successful in some area of their own life? Are you being ‘nice’ and not taking steps toward your success so others are comfortable?

I now recommend you take a deep breath! Let go of everything that just came up for you. Indeed it might not be a fear of failure that gets in the way but the fear of actually succeeding…and that fear might not even be yours so LET IT GO! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Is it Fear of Failure or Fear of Success? (inkspeare.wordpress.com)

Today I found out that one of my friends who was in fact my next door neighbor growing up, passed away suddenly at age of 50. We had just recently re-connected on Facebook and he took the time to reach out to me via private email. He asked me to call him to catch up which I very much wanted to do.

I never made that phone call. Not because I didn’t want to but I was in the middle of a dark moment of my own and needed to keep busy and to heal. A sad excuse to be sure. I’ll call tomorrow, I told myself, but after a few months I still hadn’t made the call.

Life is too short to dwell on the past or worry about the future. Imagine if you logged the time spent not living life to its fullest. How much time do you spend worrying about things that you have no control over? How much time do you spend lamenting about something in the past that you can’t change? How many times were you just ‘too busy’ to make the call? How much time do you spend worrying about a future that is only yours to create from the present?

This reminds me of the Harry Chapin song “Cats in the Cradle”. All those times we intend to re-connect, spend time with someone, tell someone we love them or forgive them are merely intention and while the intention is there unless you act on it, your moment might just pass; You never know if tomorrow you might not be able to do it.

Back in 1980 there was a man I re-connected with after living out of the country. It was a beautiful night, the moon was bright and the stars were shining. I so wanted to tell him I loved him but was afraid of his reaction. That night he asked me to call him in the morning. On my way home that night I decided to tell him when I saw him the next day. I called in the morning. His father answered the phone and told me he had been shot and killed after I left him. To this day if there is something I want to tell someone I tell them without fear or regret.

Life is much to short to spend it worrying. There should never be a time when you are too busy to pick up that phone and make amends, tell someone you love them or go on that lunch date. Don’t let time slip between your fingers until it’s too late. You never know what tomorrow will bring.

Live well, follow your passion, laugh often and spend real TIME with those you love. If you’ve intended on doing it, make time in your busy schedule to re-connect, reach out, forgive and tell someone you love them. How about right NOW? ~Shine Your Light Debbie

This blog is dedicated to and in memory of Alan Wolkoff. Rest in peace my friend.

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