Daily Muse

Healing others is a natural ability and something you may have done your whole life. Perhaps you have recently found a technique that not only helps you heal yourself but others as well. VOILA! you’ve found THE answer you’ve been looking for!

You can heal yourself AND someone else! You feel great and want to share what you’ve learned and shed light wherever and whenever because it feels good to help and you CAN! You can’t even imagine why someone wouldn’t want to heal. After all it’s simple, easy and you definitely have the ability to help. Of course, why wouldn’t you want to share and heal those closest to you?

So there you are, shining your light and healing yourself. A friend comes along and is sad, working through a problem, is depressed, sick or even merrily on their way but you can see, sense and feel something’s not right. You are so enthusiastic about healing, that you jump in with both feet. You’re going to help them! It could be an energy healing, reading or just sending out all the light and love you can. Whatever you use you’re going to make them feel better using your healing ability!

This is very noble…it’s also called being a friend 🙂 However, before you jumped in, did you ask if them if they wanted the healing? Did you “read” them without permission? I can tell you from personal experience that when you are a healer and do what comes naturally to you it may not always be welcome.When you ‘come to the rescue’ particularly in matters of the heart, without permission you can get punished on an energetic level. The person will go into resistance, put a wall up and run for the hills.

A very dear friend of mine wrote me the perfect metaphor for describing what happens. If you are an out of control healer like I can sometimes be, I think you’ll find a great deal of information in what he wrote! 🙂

“You know how if you’re in a dark place, and someone turns on a light when they’re not expecting or wanting it, and they feel blinded? And they need the light turned off NOW because their eyes haven’t adjusted yet? Well I think there’s an analogy to be made when it comes to matters of the heart. Sometimes you need to give people time for their hearts to adjust. Sometimes it’s better to knock on the door and open it sloooowwwwly, letting little bits of light in at a time. You may know they’re better off with lots of light, but that’s not always the point. They might need time to acclimate. And you might need to ask why they were in the dark. That might give you lots of information about how to give them light.”~SBS (reprinted with permission)

Each person knows whats best for their own healing and heals in their own time. In fact, as pointed out to me, you can get so attached to the outcome of the healing that you forget there is a very sensitive human being going through something that may be very painful to shed light on all at once.

Shine your light from within and heal yourself. Allow others to come to you to bathe in your light when THEY are ready. Be a good friend and not only listen, but hear what someone is telling you. They may have a very good reason they want and need to go slooooowwwwly. 🙂 ~Shine your light~ Debbie

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Remember the game “telephone” from when you were a child? That’s the game where one person whispers a sentence or two to another, then they whisper it to someone else and so on, until finally when everyone has told everyone else, the last person says the words out loud.

Perhaps I even as I described the game it gave you a chuckle. No matter what was whispered in the ear of the first person, the last person rarely had the words correct. If you remember, sometimes the sentence was complete gibberish and made no sense at all! 🙂

At the end of the game, everyone usually laughed as the person who made up the sentence(s) stated what it was supposed to be in the first place. Although it is a fun game, it clearly illustrates some of the challenges one can encounter in daily communications.

Have you ever had someone completely misunderstand something that you clearly stated? Of course there is the obvious thought that maybe you didn’t communicate clearly. It could also be based on the intent of the communication itself.

BUT it is also possible that the person HEARING what you were trying to say was hearing you through the “filters” of their own personal experiences! If this happens, not only are they are no longer “hearing” YOU but the communication stops.

Just like in the telephone game, they are hearing what they “think” they heard and while they are processing whatever button you inadvertently pushed, they can’t hear anything else.

When you are aware that this has happened, the tendency is to try to fix it or heal them to clear it up. The other thing that may happen is that you blame yourself. Either way, if someone can’t hear what you are trying to communicate, there isn’t anything you can say or do to clear it up in that moment.

So, what do you do if you feel someone has misunderstood you? Well, you can begin by forgiving yourself. 🙂 This is particularly important if you think you said something wrong! It is possible that you didn’t say anything wrong per se but that you hit an already tender spot (a picture they are working on clearing.)

The next thing you can do is to allow that person the space they need to process. If you try to heal them or fix it, in effect it’s like digging a hole for yourself. Keep in mind that whatever button you pressed, it’s theirs and you don’t have to be responsible for someones else’s “stuff”. 🙂

All in all just remember that you communicate based on your own personal experiences and others hear you through theirs. Be kind to yourself and those you are communicating with. Come from a place of loving intent and forgive yourself and others if things go amiss. Shine Your Light~Debbie

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping people heal their spirit so they can create and live the life they choose. She has been a featured guest on Wings of Love and Visible by Numbers radio broadcasts. For more information or to schedule a reading please send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com or visit her website.