Do You Really Want to “Settle” for Good Enough?

bubbletree“Take your victories, whatever they may be, cherish them, use them, but don’t settle for them.”~Mia Hamm

Is good enough REALLY good enough or has accepting good enough created a limit to what you can have? An interesting concept to ponder. If you are feeling stuck or in a place where you don’t feel you are putting your wildest dreams in motion maybe it’s time to shift the dynamic and let go of any thought patterns which, out of habit, lowers your vibration and limits your creations!

In a conversation with a friend she was telling me about the hopes and dreams she had in the past and how they actually turned out. I loved hearing about her hopes and dreams. Her eyes sparkled as she described the dream but then the sparkle dimmed as she sighed and described how it actually turned out. Let’s just say several of her life long dreams didn’t turn out the way she wanted them to. She kept saying everything “turned out ok” and was “‘good enough” even though she didn’t get what she really wanted.

“The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.”~Maureen Dowd

OK so it’s true we don’t always get exactly what we want. It’s important to have gratitude and celebrate when some of it comes our way but the danger lies in continuing to settle. What happened to my friend after so many disappointments is she stopped dreaming BIG. She lowered her vibration and did not feel worthy or deserving of anything more. At some level she decided things would NEVER turn out the way she wanted them to so at some point she stopped putting into the universe exactly what she wanted.

“Every day, people settle for less than they deserve. They are only partially living or at best living a partial life. Every human being has the potential for greatness.”~Bo Bennett

Each and every one of us has the potential for greatness but if you don’t see it, imagine it, dream it and raise your having-ness for it, it will never come to pass. Use your victories as a foundation and never give up on those dreams. Even if you’re disappointed and feel like you’ve settled or failed, use it as a learning experience and raise your vibration again.

You deserve to life a FULL life! If you are stuck in a place where everything is always “just ok” or “good enough” take a few moments to explore the pivotal moment in your past when you gave up on your potential. Look within your soul to see if at some point you decided that “it’s always been this way so why bother”.

Have you considered that those moments were more about how much you could have at the time or that it just wasn’t the right time? What if all this time you’ve lowered your vibration and settled for less because you couldn’t have it then and it’s just around the corner now?!

Accept what is, celebrate your victories, lay a foundation and put it out there again! With all you’ve learned you may find you are creating a different and brighter picture. All things happen for a reason in their own time and maybe, just maybe, it wasn’t about settling but it wasn’t the right time! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Get your GOAL On!

Lately I’ve felt a bit like a hamster on a wheel. The wheel keeps on spinning but it seemingly goes nowhere. All the meditation tools and clairvoyant abilities at my disposal and yet I still can’t help wondering what’s the purpose. My heart is full of joy & purpose when I teach a meditation class, lead a Weight Watchers meeting or do a reading and watch the power of healing at work. It is unbelievably fulfilling to help someone find or sell a home. After all home is where the heart is!

I get up each day looking forward to what will magically unfold throughout the day but something has been missing. I’ve been so busy doing for others and making a living that I’ve gotten somewhat lost in the process. Even though I meditate daily and focus on each task with enthusiasm there is always a mountain of work still to be done and that mountain weighs on me so once I finish a task I’m on to the next one. Believe me when I say I do a lot in a day but it bothers me when something isn’t finished. With no end in sight even the things I’m passionate about haven’t brought the joy I’m used to feeling. Sound familiar?

Today I connected with my answer! With all the love that I feel for my clients and students, all the coaching and “goal” speak I realized that my focus is on helping others and making a living BUT making a living is not making a life. I haven’t had a personal goal to work towards and look forward to!!! You certainly can’t reach a goal if you don’t have one!

It’s not that I don’t set goals but there are times when I get so caught up in daily circumstances that I forget to include FUN goals like vacations, massages or taking a class in something I’m interested in. In other words setting a goal to nurture my SPIRIT! Yes, every now and again I need a reminder…after all I’m human! 🙂 Perhaps this blog will not only be a reminder to myself but a reminder to you as well! Time to re-evaluate and set some goals. The best way to Get your Goal On is to put your Goal SMARTs in place!

S=SPECIFIC Make sure your goal is specific! The more specific the better! See it clearly, write it down, day-dream about it. Feel how you want to feel when you get it. Then let it go and let the universe bring it back to you!

M=MEASURABLE Put your goal out there so you really KNOW in no uncertain terms that you are achieving it! In other words something you can actually see, touch and/or feel as it relates to you personally. Be aware of the small changes that happen each day as you move forward toward your goal.

A=ATTAINABLE Create goals that are a stretch but within your reach! Also make sure the goal is within your power and control. For instance, if your goal is to win the lottery, that is not necessarily within your control.  Setting small goals along the way are a great way to measure your successes keeping you focused and moving toward your end goal.

R=REALISTIC Is your goal really YOURS? Make your goal something that is realistic and a good fit for your life and lifestyle. If you want to create BIG changes in your life you may want to set smaller goals that are achievable. Setting a goal to run a marathon (26.2 miles) IS realistic and attainable BUT if you’ve never run one mile it might be worth your while to set a goal of running one mile first! If your goal isn’t realistic you probably won’t continue to work toward it will you?

T=TIMELY As you decide your goals, set a time frame. This gives you something to work towards and keeps your goal in focus. If you don’t create a (realistic) time frame for it, it’s too vague and the ‘I’ll start tomorrow’ syndrome takes effect. A time frame also gives your day-to-day duties (and YOU) a purpose so you are living your life ON purpose.

So how about it? Get back to living your life on purpose! All it takes a a little “goal smarts”! Are you ready? Join me and LET’S GET IT ON!!! Your GOAL that is! What did you think I meant? 😉 ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer and intuitive coach providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. Based in Chicago, Debra also leads meditation workshops that help people awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts. To schedule a session or for more information on readings and workshops please visit her website or send an email request to .

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