HOPE – Page 22 – Daily Muse

All healing is self-healing and no matter how hard you try there are just some journeys that you are not meant to walk with someone else. You can understand, empathize, listen and be a good friend but you can’t heal everyone nor can you do it for them.

Taking on someone else’s pain and getting angry because they can’t or don’t want to heal in the same way as you will only make you frustrated not to mention, your attention and energy will be in their space. It will not only make them uncomfortable but they will resist even the best of intentions.

In this situation, it is best to find your neutrality and heal yourself first by seeking to understand what it is within YOU that wants to control someone else’s healing process. The difficulties and challenges that one person faces are very different from those of another and who is to say what internal process another person is going through.

Everyone heals in their own time…

To you it may not look like someone is healing if they are taking longer to do it than you would. Each of us makes our way as it is meant to be and the process takes as long as it takes. There is no time frame. It may take a day for one person, a week for another or a lifetime for someone else. Taking a step back to honor and respect the healing journey of another is the most loving thing you can do.

It’s easy to see the answer for someone else if you have not walked in their shoes. There may be a very good reason they are taking their time. Furthermore if you had a similar experience the answer YOU found to heal is not necessarily THEIR answer. If you have judgement about how to do it or how long it should take, it invalidates the person AND the healing that is already in process! Always take time to really see how much progress has been made.

Each of us must take responsibility for our own energy and healing process. Each of us has the ability to find our own answers. Heal yourself and honor the journey of others. Support and love those who are healing without judgement. Be there to offer a kind word, a warm hug, an ear to listen. Heal yourself to show someone else it is possible to heal. That my friends is how you CAN do it for someone else!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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It Takes Courage to Heal… (dailymuse.spiritlightinsight.com)
One small change, changes EVERYTHING! (dailymuse.spiritlightinsight.com)
Healing those who don’t want it (dailymuse.spiritlightinsight.com)

Standing out in a forest — Photo courtesy of Debra S. Summers

It takes courage to heal with conscious awareness. When you choose to heal yourself and create change in your life you are choosing to uncover the truth and face your fears. You are choosing to face old hurts, invalidation and pain. You are choosing to peel back layers of other people’s ‘stuff’ that you’ve taken on as your own truth.

It takes courage to find freedom and be who you are because it means that you must face the fact that everyone in the world might not like you and you can’t heal or please everyone. It takes courage to decide to end taking responsibility for other people’s pain and healing process. You only have to be responsible for the choices you make, your energy and personal growth. This doesn’t make you a bad person! If someone doesn’t want to take responsibility and take the steps to heal themselves, there is really nothing you can do to help.

Those who don’t want to heal may criticize and invalidate you without ever having done the very thing that they are criticizing you for doing. They don’t know what they’re talking about because they haven’t ever had the, “courage of their convictions.” They have not taken responsibility for their own healing and are content to live their lives in drama, judgement and according to the ‘status quo.’ It takes courage to stand out and be different; To shine and be happy; To stand up and say, “I have great value.”

When you take the steps to heal yourself you will find that any fear, invalidation, pain, failure and even sadness that you’ve held on to is full of resistance. You may also find that you haven’t wanted to fully face it. If you hold on and resist you fuel and give power to the pictures of your past which then leads to fearing what comes next and/or getting stuck.

Newsflash! Those images in your head have no power over you unless you give them power! It takes courage to face up to the fact that you have been giving power to the very thing that causes pain. It takes courage to let go of how you’ve lived and what you’ve based your life on up to this point. Healing shatters the limits and uncovers ‘lies’ that at times are difficult to acknowledge.

Healing is a process and it takes a tremendous amount of courage to continue the process, BUT it is not so much the courage to get through the process as much as having the courage to start! Healing clears a space for you to bring more of your spirit and creativity ‘home’ into your physical body. In doing this you will have more energy AND more space to create in!

You don’t need anyone else’s permission to heal, it is your choice! All it takes is the courage to begin the process. There is great value to taking the path of self-healing and the process is worth it. YOU are worth it! Be brave, have courage and you’ll awaken to a whole new world; A world you call home. Home of the free and the brave!~ Shine Your Light Debbie

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