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6 Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues!

Posted on December 15, 2014 by Debra Taitel

If you’re stressed out or singing the holiday blues these days you are not alone.

This time of year it’s common for people to feel lonely, isolated, stressed out or sad.

Here are 6 ways to shift the holiday blues so you can experience the season with JOY!

1. Disconnect

Social media is a wonderful place to connect but the fact is, not everything you see is real. I call it “the face of Facebook”. Everyone is ‘blessed’, ‘grateful’, having an amazing time, happy and joyful. Of course that’s true for some but everyone is human, has challenges, bad days and situations they don’t share. On the flip side there are rants, judgement, anger and downright nastiness. Although we think we are “connected” we are, in fact, disconnected from ourselves. Disconnect from the illusions and the energy on social media that may be affecting you more than you account for and re-connect with yourself.

2. Meditate

Take 5 or 10 minutes (at the very least) to simply breathe, feel your connection with the earth and your energy flow. Check in with yourself. Reconnect with YOU. Daily meditation during the holidays has a cumulative effect. The more you find time to meditate, the smoother your day will be. You could even take it one step farther and actually set the energy of the holidays for yourself. While in meditation, decide what energy vibration you’d like to experience for a particular day and “set” that day. In fact, try doing it today! Set the energy you’d like to experience for today and see what happens. Call it a practice day and we all know, practice makes perfect.

3. Manage Expectations

There is a lot of pressure during the holiday season. We are expected to find the perfect gift, act a certain way, be somewhere on time, be nice etc. There are a plethora of expectations we are supposed to meet and those expectations from others (and the expectations we have for ourselves) put more pressure on us. How you choose to take part in the holidays is totally up to you. To manage expectations check in with yourself and see what YOU need. If you find yourself responding, going to every party, caving to peer pressure to eat drink and be merry when you don’t feel like it, check in with yourself and just notice if you’re answering to the expectations of others or putting undo pressure on yourself with your own expectations.

4. Release the Ghosts of Holidays Past

The holidays can be a challenging, sad and lonely time of year often times because of holidays past. It is inevitable we will be missing a loved one, stressed out by something that happened and remembering fondly, or not so fondly, holidays long past. When holiday memories come up, acknowledge and embrace them. Notice the feeling that accompanies the memory and acknowledge that too. Once you’ve acknowledged the memory allow it to be released. Release the ghosts of holidays past so you are free and have access to all your energy to create beautiful holiday magic in the present.

5. Let Family be Family

Even the happiest of families has its moments. Someone, whether consciously or unconsciously, might invalidate you, compete with you, boss you around or simply push your buttons. Take a breath and find some neutrality. If things get ugly, meet the situation by taking a deep breath, checking in with yourself and remembering they are engaging you because of their own “stuff”. You don’t need to challenge, fight with, prove yourself or engage them. Your neutrality is you taking the “high road” and helps to defuse the situation. You know that saying “peace on earth, good will towards men”? Why not extend a little of that towards family?

6. Find your Magic and JOY!

Connect with your own unique (and powerful) vibrations of magic and joy. Allow the magic and joy to flow through you. Create magical connections and situations. Don’t simply respond to an invitation, do those things that bring YOU joy and are not simply obligations to family and friends. There is a magical, beautiful world out there filled with joy. Allow yours to flow and surround yourself with it.

During the stressful holiday season reconnect with YOU. Take time to breathe. Manage expectations. Allow others to be where they are. Release the ghosts that haunt you. Connect with those you love who may or may not be family and plan a little holiday magic! Sometimes all it takes is to get up close and personal with yourself and others. Cheers to JOY and Magic!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Is There Illegal Dumping Going On in Your Space?

Posted on October 23, 2014 by Debra Taitel

Is someone mistaking your kindness for an agreement to dump their problems and/or pain into your space? Do people come into your life, hand you their problems then disappear as if they were never there? If you’ve been dumped on, are you OK with that?

My guess is that your probably NOT ok with someone dumping their pain into your space or running it through you.

The disturbing part of being dumped on is when we wake up to the fact that at some level we were taught (or programmed) to allow it and we, whether knowingly or unknowingly, are agreeing to it. Healers are particularly susceptible to this programming.

These “give me your pain” or as I like to call them “pass the pain” agreements exist between friends, lovers, family members and colleagues. Of course we want to “problem solve”. Of course we want to lend a compassionate ear. Of course we want to help others through difficult times. Of course we are there to support and heal those we love BUT that doesn’t mean we have to take on their pain or run it through us.

Why and When did we Agree?

I know you’re thinking (not because I’m clairvoyant but because I’ve pondered the question myself) “no way did I agree to take on that pain”. I’m their friend, lover, family (fill in the blank) and agreed to help them, heal them or hold their hand but I DID NOT agree to actually take that pain into me. Well my friends, at some level you did and it may simply be you are such a capable healer that you can.

It could be a Karmic agreement or quite possibly you want someone to love or like you. You may have been taught to do this to make others more comfortable or you may have learned it was more comfortable for you. Counter-intuitive I know but sometimes it’s easier for us to clear the pain for others than to actually watch them be in pain. There are as many reasons for the agreements we make as people on the planet. Every one is different and in a lifetime of pasts, presents and futures it’s up to each of us to uncover our truth about why and when.

What About Energy Vampires?

There is a lot of talk about energy vampires and less about getting dumped on although if you really take a long hard look, those we consider the “Energy Vampires” sucking our energy dry, are the ones doing some of the dumping.

Funny thing is, we wouldn’t allow a stranger to dump on us now would we? Isn’t is interesting that those who “dump” are usually the ones closest to us at some level. The ones who know exactly how to push our buttons and the more we resist, the easier it is for them to dump!

One of the reasons we allow them to do it time and time again is because we love them. We don’t want to see them in pain. Many times I see healers who would rather be in pain themselves than allow another to be in pain. In the case of co-workers, colleagues and bosses we allow it so we are accepted as a part of the team or to keep the peace and our jobs.

Dumping Awareness

The dumpers aren’t necessarily aware they are dumping, and we may not be aware we’ve been dumped on until after the fact. Do you notice people or connections who come into your life then, in the blink of an eye, they leave and you don’t know why? Does your business go up and down or you go through periods of feast or famine? Guess what? Those are PRIME indicators you’ve been dumped on!

Stop the Madness!

It’s time we all stop the “pass the pain” “give it to me” syndrome. We don’t have to run others pain through us. The secret is to simply end the agreement. Clear the programming that says we should allow another to dump or run their pain through us.

Own your space by filling it with you. Fill it with compassion and love. Radiate from a place of your being. Be love and compassion. That, my friends, is what allows others to heal. Clean up the resistance and mess. Plant new seeds to grow. Create new thought processes and consciously decide to do it differently.

Treat those who dump with love and compassion. Just as you learned to allow the dumping, they learned it’s ok to do it AND just by you acknowledging and not taking on their pain, you are teaching them not to dump but to heal. We all have the ability to heal ourselves and we are here to help each other but that doesn’t mean we have to take on the pain of others to do it.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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