Is There Illegal Dumping Going On in Your Space?

wasteIs someone mistaking your kindness for an agreement to dump their problems and/or pain into your space? Do people come into your life, hand you their problems then disappear as if they were never there? If you’ve been dumped on, are you OK with that?

My guess is that your probably NOT ok with someone dumping their pain into your space or running it through you.

The disturbing part of being dumped on is when we wake up to the fact that at some level we were taught (or programmed) to allow it and we, whether knowingly or unknowingly, are agreeing to it. Healers are particularly susceptible to this programming.

These “give me your pain” or as I like to call them “pass the pain” agreements exist between friends, lovers, family members and colleagues. Of course we want to “problem solve”. Of course we want to lend a compassionate ear. Of course we want to help others through difficult times. Of course we are there to support and heal those we love BUT that doesn’t mean we have to take on their pain or run it through us.

Why and When did we Agree?

I know you’re thinking (not because I’m clairvoyant but because I’ve pondered the question myself) “no way did I agree to take on that pain”. I’m their friend, lover, family (fill in the blank) and agreed to help them, heal them or hold their hand but I DID NOT agree to actually take that pain into me. Well my friends, at some level you did and it may simply be you are such a capable healer that you can.

It could be a Karmic agreement or quite possibly you want someone to love or like you. You may have been taught to do this to make others more comfortable or you may have learned it was more comfortable for you. Counter-intuitive I know but sometimes it’s easier for us to clear the pain for others than to actually watch them be in pain. There are as many reasons for the agreements we make as people on the planet. Every one is different and in a lifetime of pasts, presents and futures it’s up to each of us to uncover our truth about why and when.

What About Energy Vampires?

There is a lot of talk about energy vampires and less about getting dumped on although if you really take a long hard look,  those we consider the “Energy Vampires” sucking our energy dry, are the ones doing some of the dumping.

Funny thing is, we wouldn’t allow a stranger to dump on us now would we? Isn’t is interesting that those who “dump” are usually the ones closest to us at some level. The ones who know exactly how to push our buttons and the more we resist, the easier it is for them to dump!

One of the reasons we allow them to do it time and time again is because we love them. We don’t want to see them in pain. Many times I see healers who would rather be in pain themselves than allow another to be in pain. In the case of co-workers, colleagues and bosses we allow it so we are accepted as a part of the team or to keep the peace and our jobs.

Dumping Awareness

The dumpers aren’t necessarily aware they are dumping, and we may not be aware we’ve been dumped on until after the fact. Do you notice people or connections who come into your life then, in the blink of an eye, they leave and you don’t know why? Does your business go up and down or you go through periods of feast or famine? Guess what? Those are PRIME indicators you’ve been dumped on!

Stop the Madness!

It’s time we all stop the “pass the pain” “give it to me” syndrome. We don’t have to run others pain through us. The secret is to simply end the agreement. Clear the programming that says we should allow another to dump or run their pain through us.

Own your space by filling it with you. Fill it with compassion and love. Radiate from a place of your being. Be love and compassion. That, my friends, is what allows others to heal. Clean up the resistance and mess. Plant new seeds to grow. Create new thought processes and consciously decide to do it differently.

Treat those who dump with love and compassion. Just as you learned to allow the dumping, they learned it’s ok to do it AND just by you acknowledging and not taking on their pain, you are teaching them not to dump but to heal. We all have the ability to heal ourselves and we are here to help each other but that doesn’t mean we have to take on the pain of others to do it.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Earthquakes, Earth Energy, Grounding and the 1st Chakra

Earth Energy and GroundingThe earth is in a big growth period at the moment and the energy is very stirred up. You may be finding it difficult, if not near impossible, to ground, center and feel safe. The earthquakes going on around the world in recent days are indicators of a shift and release of energy.

Each of us has a connection with the earth from our first chakra. Located at the base of the spine, this energy center helps us feel safe among other things. The earth has changed and therefore our grounding must shift and change to make our first chakra and body feel safe.

If you’ve felt a bit panicky or out of whack you may be feeling the effects of your connection with the earth if you haven’t checked in with yourself in a while. Also, when the internal energy of the earth is stirred up you might be bringing in too much earth energy for your body to handle.

It is time to re-establish our connection with the earth and turn down how much earth energy we bring in so we are in alignment and present time with the earth. The Vernal Equinox is quickly approaching and it’s important to embrace and welcome our internal growth in addition to watching the earth Spring to life after a long cold winter.

Grounding

Take a deep breath and bring your attention to rest behind your eyes in the center of your head. Imagine you are sitting there in the middle of a golden light. From that place notice the base of your spine where your first chakra is located. Send a simple hello from the center of your head to the base of your spine. Breathe into the warmth of the golden light as you do this. Now from an effortless place, create a connection or line of energy from the base of your spine to the center of the earth.

You may want to use an image of a tree rooted deeply into the ground. Now imagine yourself connecting with the calm, nurturing center of the planet. Feel Mother Earth’s warm embrace. Allow Mother Earth to comfort you with that connection. Breathe deeply and slowly release any stress or anxiety you’re holding on to.

Continue to acknowledge your new connection with the earth as you breathe and release. Notice if you’re feeling different with this new connection. If you’re feeling uncomfortable at any point, just breathe into it and allow whatever it is to be released. Just breathe and release.

Turn Your Earth Energy Down

Although you have established a connection with the earth to feel safe and release, you are bringing in earth energy through your feet. If you feel “buzzy” or overwhelmed it’s a good time to notice your feet connected to the ground. Set your intent to only bring in as much earth energy as you need. You may need more, you may need less so just set an overall intent to bring in as much as you need and once again notice how you’re feeling.

Gold Suns

Now that you’ve re-established your connection with the earth, released and set your intent to bring in only as much earth energy as you need, it’s time to fill up! Imagine a beautiful, joyful golden sun above your head. Bring that golden sun right in through the top of your head with the intent of filling up anywhere you released energy. You can create and bring in as many golden suns as you need or want. Fill up until you’re overflowing and bathed in golden light.

Just as you are growing and changing so too is the earth. There will be more earthquakes and weather patterns will continue to change. We are entering into an era where powerful shifts will be coming more often and if you know how to ground and re-new your connection you will be infinitely more comfortable.

The best thing about grounding is you can do it anywhere, at any time to change how you feel and bring a sense of safety to your body. Why not give it a try? ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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