Relationships – Page 6

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”~Oscar Wilde

As human beings we all seek to love and be loved. Love cannot be explained, measured or seen. It is a feeling that comes from deep within our soul.

There is no greater power in the world than love. It makes us feel alive, makes our hearts sing and brings a sense of purpose and contentment.

We seek love and yet it sometimes eludes us. We have thoughts of what we think love IS. We have thoughts about what we think it should be but when was the last time someone asked you the question “how do you want to be loved?” Better yet when was the last time you asked yourself “how do ‘I’ want to be loved?”

I must admit that I’ve never asked myself this question. I know “who” and “what” I’m looking for but never have I explored HOW I want to be loved. When this very question was brought to my attention in a recent dance performance I attended called “The Seventh Love” (an original work written and directed by David Kersnar, performed by Natya Dance Theater) I realized not only how important it is to ask but how profound and powerful it is in the asking.

How can you love someone the way they want to be loved without asking them the question “how do you want to be loved?” How will someone love you the way you want to be loved if you haven’t first asked yourself this question to really know how it is you want to be loved? How can someone possibly love you the way you want to be loved if you don’t first love yourself how you want to be loved?

The “act” of loving is different than the pure vibration of love that resides within each of us. Accessing our own unique vibration of love, being that love and allowing it to pour forth allows us to “actively” love ourselves and others. We show others how we want to be loved by loving ourselves how we want to be loved.

Pure unconditional love is a vibration filled with acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing. It is not until we connect with ourselves and the vibration that we can even begin to answer the question. The answer in “The Seventh Love” was as profound as the question. “By allowing me to love the way I want to be loved”. Expression of divine inner love comes from a place of allowing yourself to love and be loved freely without judgement, attachment to an outcome or expectation.

How do I want to be loved? I want to be accepted for who I am and allowed to express that love without reservation. I want to be loved with respect and affection and allowed to love with respect and affection. I want to be loved for the divine spark that resides within. I want to be loved freely, without judgement or expectation. As I love myself in this way I show others and it tells others how I want to be loved.

Romance your soul. Explore and discover how you want to be loved. Ask another how they want to be loved and allow them to love the way they want to be loved. Love YOURSELF the way you want to be loved and have a lifelong romance!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.”~Buddha

Have you ever found yourself trying to “figure out” or investigate something that didn’t feel right? Has someone lied or withheld information from you and you set your feet upon a path of “finding” the truth?

How many times has your energy and attention been outside of you looking to find the truth or an explanation of what’s happening? Personally I’ve done this throughout my life and the funny thing is that the moment I stop looking outside of myself and stand in my truth, the truth always seems to find me.

If you are looking “outside” of yourself for the truth you are not open to the truth that is already inside of you. You know there is an untruth (or withholding) in play because something doesn’t feel right at some level. When this happens do you leave your space to go out and find the answer? Does your wilful blindness come into play? In other words the truth is there but you choose not to see it, hear it or believe it. Sometimes we ignore “truth” because we are moving along in our own self propagated bliss and we shut off our intuition.

There’s a famous movie line which states ‘you can’t handle the truth’. It’s not that you can’t handle the truth it’s the “facts” you might have a challenge accepting. You can handle truth but may not really want to see and acknowledge the facts. Let me assure you that you can handle any truth that comes your way because the energy of truth is pure. Initially knowing and accepting the facts might hurt but in the end it feels right and you know it’s right because, well, it’s the truth.

“In a controversy the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for
the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves.”~Buddha

In controversy we strive to be right and righteous. In matters of relationships we strive to be right and righteous and we do whatever it takes to BE right even if it means not facing the facts at hand or seeing the reality of what’s going on. The same can be said for withholding of information. The energy of withholding feels much the same as the energy of lies.

Either way when “red flags” are triggered there is an imbalance of energy which in turn triggers the ego mind and activates the blame game. What if you simply noticed the energy of withholding or lies and could stand in your truth and by doing so allow the facts to come to you? Lies and withholding are “controls” to keep you from making your own decision about something. There is no freedom for either party.

“Truth is by nature self-evident. As soon as you remove the cobwebs
of ignorance that surround it, it shines clear.”
~Mahatma Gandhi

Clearing cobwebs of illusion means looking at the the facts. All of us at one point or another have closed our eyes to a truth that is right in front of us. We have bought the “picture” that was handed to us. The choice belongs to each of us and the answer is usually right in front of our eyes if we choose to see beyond the illusion. Those who feel stuck are really in resistance to the seeing truth of what needs to be released so they can move forward again. The reality is when you seek out truth and clear the illusion, clarity brings more clarity, truth brings more truth and at that point you have the choice to release what’s been keeping you stuck.

When you stand in YOUR truth, the truth finds YOU!

If you are looking for truth, as Dorothy says in the Wizard of Oz “ you don’t have to look any further than your own back yard.” There’s truly no place like home. Standing in your truth doesn’t make you right and someone else wrong. It simply means you are standing in your truth, with awareness. It means following your intuition and your heart. If you are looking for truth, set your crown chakra to vibrate at truth. Stand grounded in your space. The truth will come out. The truth will find you…. it always does.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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