Living Loving Learning – Page 12

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”~Washington Irving

I often get asked after deep reading/healing sessions if it’s “normal” to experience grief, deep sadness and fear. My answer is always the same…yes. The truth is that grief, sadness and fear are a very normal and natural part of the letting go process.

Those emotions may come up only for a moment or, if you’re releasing (letting go) of energies, beliefs, a relationship or a dream you’ve held on to for a long time, it may take some time and a growth period for the process to fully integrate. Everyone experiences letting go in a different way and each experience will differ with each release.

Letting Go is a Process…

For whatever reason you decide to let go, be it a decision you made consciously by design or out of necessity, the moment you make the choice to let go, various emotions start to come up. Emotions are the body’s way of communicating with you and although you can clear energy instantly in spirit, the body needs time to adjust. It’s important to remember your body needs time to heal in “real-time” and letting go is a process not an event. Allow your body to process whatever emotions come up for you. Letting go can be a major life changing experience and just like grieving a loved one who has transitioned, you are grieving for the self you are leaving behind.

There’s no shame in tears!

Crying is one of the ways to cleanse, release energy and process emotions. It is your body’s natural response to overwhelming emotion. There is no shame in crying! In fact there’s nothing better than a good cry to make you feel better. If you feel like crying, go ahead and do so. Allow your emotions to come up. Really FEEL them. Any time you try to “control” what you’re feeling, you’re either in resistance or there’s an energy (usually someone else’s) blocking the cleansing process.

Stay With It!

When we experience overwhelming emotion the tendency is to push it away, not feel it, stop ourselves from crying. Perhaps you were told crying is a sign of weakness? Perhaps you were not allowed to cry. the ability to “be” with our emotions and just ‘let them be’ by acknowledging we are indeed feeling an intense emotion, is the first step towards letting go because we’re not in resistance.

Letting go is not giving up nor giving in! Sometimes staying with it means we have to let go of other emotions like shame, pride and ego. Other times we have to let go of feeling like a failure or trying to control and bend a situation so it fits what we want. No matter what comes up, stay with and acknowledge it because that is when you will be able to release and let go.

Grief, sadness and fear are part of the natural letting go process. It is how you handle those emotions that make the difference in how quickly you will process and move through the energy. Allow your emotions to come up, be with them, acknowledge them and then gently release. Recognize that what you are feeling is a natural part of the growth period and don’t resist. It’ll do your body good. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant Visionary, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

How many times in your life have you asked someone to excuse you? How many times have you found yourself making an excuse for yourself or someone else?

Asking to be excused is a polite way of asking to be ‘released’ from a requirement.

A few examples: when you were in school and needed to be excused from class, you brought a note from your parents. Others are when you excuse yourself for bumping into someone or you are trying to get someone’s attention when they are doing something else.

What about the other definitions? The english language is tricky if it is not your mother tongue but it IS interesting that the same word is used to pardon or release someone (or yourself) from blame as well as to offer a “reason” for something you cannot or choose not to do.

How many times a day do you make an excuse or excuse yourself?

Who or what are you exactly excusing and to whom? Are you somehow justifying or rationalizing something to yourself in the process? Do you find yourself making excuses for someone else? More importantly are you being truthful when you are asking to be excused or are you simply making an excuse?

When you take ownership of the things you do or say there is no need for an excuse! Ownership means taking responsibility for your actions, words, and choices and how they may have affected someone else or possibly even how the excuses (or excusing yourself) affects your life.

Being polite is not just wonderful, it’s the right thing to do. Of course we try to be polite with each other but it’s a completely different energy when we ‘make excuses’ to assign blame, or we choose not to take ownership of a decision that we (or someone else) has consciously or unconsciously made.

Oh yes. We not only make excuses for ourselves but we make excuses for others and sometimes we do this to assign blame or avoid the truth. When we make excuses for others we are, at some level, healing them but that, my friends, is a subject for another post.

Take a deep dive into “why”!

Don’t ask why, explore why. Exploring WHY you choose a particular word, an action (or inaction), or why you made a certain choice leads you to learning more about yourself.

Taking an inner journey to explore the “why” opens the door to forgiveness and change.

What you notice in self-exploration is not to be judged. What you did or didn’t do in the past is probably not how you would handle it now. The important steps to this are to see what you see. Acknowledge what you see. Own what you see. Forgive yourself. Taking ownership has a great deal of freedom that comes along with it.

Every thought, deed or action has a learning experience tied to it. Your awareness and ownership of the choices you make (or made) can lead you on an interesting journey of the soul. You may even find that the choices you made in the past were laid on a foundation of programming built by someone else. If that’s the case, it’s time to build your own house on a foundation of ownership and truth.

This is not about being right or wrong in a situation. It’s about owning your choices and taking responsibility for them. If you make a mistake own it and learn from it. Clear the energy. Clear the guilt. Forgive yourself. Once the light of awareness illuminates an excuse consider it an opportunity to learn and heal.

So please excuse the excuse! Take ownership of your life and stop making excuses! If you find yourself making excuses for someone else in your life forgive them for their lack of awareness. If you make excuses for yourself, forgive yourself.

YOU have the power to transform your life. You have the power to build a foundation without the need to make excuses. If you don’t want to start now, what’s your excuse? ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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