MEDITATION – Page 14

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Are you an out-of-control healer? Do you find you become responsible or blame yourself for other people’s feelings, reactions or experiences? Do you go into automatic healing mode with others who may not actually want it?

I stand before you with a confession; I am an out of control healer. Being an out of control healer was, and still is, very much a part of my own personal healing journey. Each time it happens I look inward to find the energy picture that causes me to get stuck in that space time and time again so I can I peel off yet another layer of “stuff” that I’ve taken responsibility for which is not mine.

How do you know if you’re an out of control healer?

Healing others and offering help is not necessarily being an out of control healer but you may be an out of control healer if:

you give away your energy and attention to those in need at the expense of your own needs
you become responsible for another’s experience, growth period, feelings or reactions
you blame yourself and constantly try to “fix” things outside of your control
you become an energy sponge for others pain
you try to “solve” everyone else’s problems or dramas
you continue to heal those who don’t want it and you go into effort trying to heal them
you only hear from so-called friends when they are having a crisis
you befriend every hurting soul you see

Those are just a few of the ways you can tell if you’re an out of control healer but why one does this is also important to look at. All healing is self-healing and there are those who don’t wish to take responsibility for their part in the drama or situations they find themselves in. If you continue to heal or give your energy and attention to them, they will become angry because in essence you are trying to “show them” and heal what they don’t want to look at within themselves. If you find yourself in a situation when you are doing this, look within yourself to see what it is within you causing you to snap into healing mode.

Use your experiences for self-healing

Every person will have a different set of energies or pictures but I wanted to share a recent discovery on my part after I was “blamed” for making someone feel inadequate. In a conversation I made an innocent comment about how I was “used to doing it differently” than how they did it. I then asked a question to clarify the different style. I was not trying to invalidate in any way yet I noticed the person’s pictures get lit up and I quickly went into healing mode. I took responsibility for everything she was feeling, blamed myself, decided I was a horrible monster of a person for lighting up her pictures in the first place then tried to fix it which of course didn’t work.

No one can “make” someone feel inadequate (or feel however they are feeling.) It is those places where they already feel inadequate that are coming up for them. One also can’t be responsible for lighting up the energies or pictures someone else is working on. It doesn’t mean I didn’t feel bad about causing someone pain because it, in fact, affected me rather deeply and it took hours before I was finally able to forgive myself and let go. I had to turn my attention within to find those places where I felt “inadequate”. I had to find those places within where I felt like I’d said something wrong and forgive myself for being human and occasionally saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I had to turn within, take responsibility and forgive myself for whatever part I played in it.

Life is not always about smooth sailing on calm waters and each of us can learn from every situation that is presented to us. If you are an out of control healer you are being shown all those places you can work on within yourself. Dig deeper into your inner world and uncover that which has been hidden or you haven’t wanted to look at until now. Forgive yourself for the part you played in the past and allow yourself and others to be where they are. How someone else is feeling is beyond your control. How someone hears you is out of your control. Someone who doesn’t want to heal is beyond your control. Taking responsibility and forgiving yourself for whatever part you played IS in your control and is also a part of your own healing process.~Shine Your Light

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When was the last time you woke up in the morning and set your own energy vibration for the day? Yes there are things to do, people to see and responsibilities that must be met but taking the time to set your energy allows you to sail through your day without becoming the effect of the other energies you encounter.

Setting your energy means deciding how you want to be no matter what you have to do. It is about giving yourself the space to be YOU in any situation. When you set your own energy you are shifting the power from those things outside of you to the power you have within you. You are choosing the quality of energy you want to put forth for the day and in doing so, you are choosing the vibration of how you respond as well.

How do you set your energy?

To begin, turn your attention within and quiet your mind. Instead of starting your day with your attention on all those things you must do, check in with yourself. See how YOU are doing. If your energy and attention is on all those things you have to do and how you will do them you are already responding and letting the energy of responsibility set you. Turning your attention within and choosing your vibration shifts the energy and takes the weight of responsibility off your shoulders.

What feels good to you? What quality of energy do you want to experience while going through your day? Imagine what it would be like to do those things you have to do with ease; Without becoming responsible for being responsible, without resistance and without needing to control it or becoming the effect of the energies. Imagine a day filled with love or enthusiasm or joy or peace or whatever quality of energy you want AND you are able complete your tasks.

Imagination and visualization are powerful tools that can change your day in an instant. If all you can “see” when you look at your day is everything you have to DO and you worry about how you’re going to get it all done you are already in resistance to it! Wouldn’t you rather swim with the tide instead of against it? Swimming with the tide doesn’t mean you’re going along with the program it simply means there are things you have planned in day and you choose to be you and SWIM rather than be tossed about and swept away with the tide.

Take a few moments at the start of each day to set your energy and vibration how YOU want it. All to often we go along with the “program” forgetting that each of us has the power to set our own vibration. Look within and find that vibration that makes you feel good and set the energy of the day that way. There may be challenges, obligations and responsibilities you face but when you set the energy of your day you will face them with grace and ease. Today I’m setting my vibration at love and inner peace. How about you?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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