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Are you an out-of-control healer? Do you find you become responsible or blame yourself for other people’s feelings, reactions or experiences? Do you go into automatic healing mode with others who may not actually want it?

I stand before you with a confession; I am an out of control healer. Being an out of control healer was, and still is, very much a part of my own personal healing journey. Each time it happens I look inward to find the energy picture that causes me to get stuck in that space time and time again so I can I peel off yet another layer of “stuff” that I’ve taken responsibility for which is not mine.

How do you know if you’re an out of control healer?

Healing others and offering help is not necessarily being an out of control healer but you may be an out of control healer if:

you give away your energy and attention to those in need at the expense of your own needs
you become responsible for another’s experience, growth period, feelings or reactions
you blame yourself and constantly try to “fix” things outside of your control
you become an energy sponge for others pain
you try to “solve” everyone else’s problems or dramas
you continue to heal those who don’t want it and you go into effort trying to heal them
you only hear from so-called friends when they are having a crisis
you befriend every hurting soul you see

Those are just a few of the ways you can tell if you’re an out of control healer but why one does this is also important to look at. All healing is self-healing and there are those who don’t wish to take responsibility for their part in the drama or situations they find themselves in. If you continue to heal or give your energy and attention to them, they will become angry because in essence you are trying to “show them” and heal what they don’t want to look at within themselves. If you find yourself in a situation when you are doing this, look within yourself to see what it is within you causing you to snap into healing mode.

Use your experiences for self-healing

Every person will have a different set of energies or pictures but I wanted to share a recent discovery on my part after I was “blamed” for making someone feel inadequate. In a conversation I made an innocent comment about how I was “used to doing it differently” than how they did it. I then asked a question to clarify the different style. I was not trying to invalidate in any way yet I noticed the person’s pictures get lit up and I quickly went into healing mode. I took responsibility for everything she was feeling, blamed myself, decided I was a horrible monster of a person for lighting up her pictures in the first place then tried to fix it which of course didn’t work.

No one can “make” someone feel inadequate (or feel however they are feeling.) It is those places where they already feel inadequate that are coming up for them. One also can’t be responsible for lighting up the energies or pictures someone else is working on. It doesn’t mean I didn’t feel bad about causing someone pain because it, in fact, affected me rather deeply and it took hours before I was finally able to forgive myself and let go. I had to turn my attention within to find those places where I felt “inadequate”. I had to find those places within where I felt like I’d said something wrong and forgive myself for being human and occasionally saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I had to turn within, take responsibility and forgive myself for whatever part I played in it.

Life is not always about smooth sailing on calm waters and each of us can learn from every situation that is presented to us. If you are an out of control healer you are being shown all those places you can work on within yourself. Dig deeper into your inner world and uncover that which has been hidden or you haven’t wanted to look at until now. Forgive yourself for the part you played in the past and allow yourself and others to be where they are. How someone else is feeling is beyond your control. How someone hears you is out of your control. Someone who doesn’t want to heal is beyond your control. Taking responsibility and forgiving yourself for whatever part you played IS in your control and is also a part of your own healing process.~Shine Your Light

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Every day of your life you have the option to walk in the light or to take cover and hide amidst the shadows of darkness. Walking in the light doesn’t mean there are no challenges and everything is perfect. It means you choose to face your outer challenges by looking into your deepest darkest self to heal from the inside out.

When you walk in the light you must face your fears, uncover what is hidden and strive to ask questions which lead you to a deeper understanding of yourself. It takes courage and strength to truly walk in the light for you must forgive yourself for past choices and transgressions which you might not want to acknowledge. Walking in the light is much more than just ‘deciding’ you will be happy at any given moment because that moment will pass and then what? Your decision to be happy is a good one and is the start to shifting your energy but once that moment has passed if you haven’t uncovered and let go of what is deeply hidden you once again find yourself staring into the darkness.

Walking in the light means you are choosing to see yourself and at times you may feel vulnerable because as you shine your light others can see you. There is no hiding in the light. You cannot hide from yourself and you cannot hide from others. When you walk in the light you are choosing to boldly be yourself and show others who you really are without fear of being judged, ridiculed or invalidated. This is probably the hardest thing to do. We all want to be liked, loved and accepted and there are times we choose to walk in someone else’s darkness lest we shine our light too brightly when they are hurting or going through a challenging time.

As you walk in the light there are times you will feel alone and isolated but this is not because you are alone; You are NEVER alone. It is because as you clear out the old and transition to the new you need time to reflect and process. Do not resist what you are feeling and never give up. This is precisely the time to bring in the universal energy of love and forgiveness. There are many others who choose to walk in the light and the brighter your light, the more you will attract others who are doing the same.

When you choose to walk in the light you are consciously choosing to generate energy instead of constantly responding to the energy of others. You are choosing to forge a path and illuminate it with your vibrancy. You are choosing to stop blaming, judging or thinking you are better than others because those vibrations come from the ego self not the true essence of spirit.

Walking in the light is a path of self discovery and no one else can do it for you. In fact it is not about anything that comes from outside of you. Walking in the light comes from the inside. It is about you shining from within so brightly that your path is clear to you. Walking in the light is choosing is choosing to honor YOU and your own light.

Honor and behold the divinity in you and others. Allow your light to shine from within and illuminate your path. Choose light over darkness. I choose to walk in the light. Won’t you join me?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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