Energy Healing – Page 4

Is someone mistaking your kindness for an agreement to dump their problems and/or pain into your space? Do people come into your life, hand you their problems then disappear as if they were never there? If you’ve been dumped on, are you OK with that?

My guess is that your probably NOT ok with someone dumping their pain into your space or running it through you.

The disturbing part of being dumped on is when we wake up to the fact that at some level we were taught (or programmed) to allow it and we, whether knowingly or unknowingly, are agreeing to it. Healers are particularly susceptible to this programming.

These “give me your pain” or as I like to call them “pass the pain” agreements exist between friends, lovers, family members and colleagues. Of course we want to “problem solve”. Of course we want to lend a compassionate ear. Of course we want to help others through difficult times. Of course we are there to support and heal those we love BUT that doesn’t mean we have to take on their pain or run it through us.

Why and When did we Agree?

I know you’re thinking (not because I’m clairvoyant but because I’ve pondered the question myself) “no way did I agree to take on that pain”. I’m their friend, lover, family (fill in the blank) and agreed to help them, heal them or hold their hand but I DID NOT agree to actually take that pain into me. Well my friends, at some level you did and it may simply be you are such a capable healer that you can.

It could be a Karmic agreement or quite possibly you want someone to love or like you. You may have been taught to do this to make others more comfortable or you may have learned it was more comfortable for you. Counter-intuitive I know but sometimes it’s easier for us to clear the pain for others than to actually watch them be in pain. There are as many reasons for the agreements we make as people on the planet. Every one is different and in a lifetime of pasts, presents and futures it’s up to each of us to uncover our truth about why and when.

What About Energy Vampires?

There is a lot of talk about energy vampires and less about getting dumped on although if you really take a long hard look, those we consider the “Energy Vampires” sucking our energy dry, are the ones doing some of the dumping.

Funny thing is, we wouldn’t allow a stranger to dump on us now would we? Isn’t is interesting that those who “dump” are usually the ones closest to us at some level. The ones who know exactly how to push our buttons and the more we resist, the easier it is for them to dump!

One of the reasons we allow them to do it time and time again is because we love them. We don’t want to see them in pain. Many times I see healers who would rather be in pain themselves than allow another to be in pain. In the case of co-workers, colleagues and bosses we allow it so we are accepted as a part of the team or to keep the peace and our jobs.

Dumping Awareness

The dumpers aren’t necessarily aware they are dumping, and we may not be aware we’ve been dumped on until after the fact. Do you notice people or connections who come into your life then, in the blink of an eye, they leave and you don’t know why? Does your business go up and down or you go through periods of feast or famine? Guess what? Those are PRIME indicators you’ve been dumped on!

Stop the Madness!

It’s time we all stop the “pass the pain” “give it to me” syndrome. We don’t have to run others pain through us. The secret is to simply end the agreement. Clear the programming that says we should allow another to dump or run their pain through us.

Own your space by filling it with you. Fill it with compassion and love. Radiate from a place of your being. Be love and compassion. That, my friends, is what allows others to heal. Clean up the resistance and mess. Plant new seeds to grow. Create new thought processes and consciously decide to do it differently.

Treat those who dump with love and compassion. Just as you learned to allow the dumping, they learned it’s ok to do it AND just by you acknowledging and not taking on their pain, you are teaching them not to dump but to heal. We all have the ability to heal ourselves and we are here to help each other but that doesn’t mean we have to take on the pain of others to do it.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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“As long as habit and routine dictate the pattern of living, new dimensions of the soul will not emerge.”~Henry Van Dyke

When was the last time you tried something new? When was the last time you stepped outside of your comfort zone by simply changing the route you walk (or drive) to work? Went to see a play or movie? Visited a friend you haven’t seen in a while? Went to a new restaurant, visited an art museum or took a walk in nature? When was the last time you did something you used to enjoy but, due to the busy-ness of life, haven’t done it in a long time?

Maybe your “routine” has become a habit and maybe that very routine is keeping you from flourishing and moving forward! How about shifting that routine from the unaware mundane to the aware and exciting?!!! How about shaking it up a bit to increase your awareness?!!

Our routines become our habits and our habits become those areas where we have the least awareness! If you’ve felt stuck, depressed, you’re having a challenge releasing energy and/or it feels like there’s no forward movement in your life maybe it’s time to try something new and exciting!

“I wasn’t losing my focus but I was getting tired of focusing. What I was focusing on was becoming too routine, too ritual, not something that was interesting, new and exciting.”~Picabo Street

When we get used to focusing on the negative and releasing the same things over and over we are actually causing a habit to be born. Anything we do day in and day out, in other words our routine, leads us to go on auto pilot. Of course there are times when this works in our favor like flossing and brushing your teeth every day or choosing healthy foods. Those are for sure good habits to have BUT when it comes to energy work the routine becomes the mundane and no longer feeds your spirit and soul.

The more comfortable in our routines the harder it is to create change and transformation. No matter how much we want things to change there is an element of fear that comes up. We even get comfortable in our pain. Why? Because it’s all too familiar! We know how to deal with it. The reality is that “life begins at the end of your comfort zone”~Neale Donald Walsh

There are empirical studies that show if you repeat a behavior often enough, your “synaptic pathways are going to get worn.” Well, what if we consciously, mind-fully and gently re-energize our synaptic pathways?

“The less routine the more life.”~Amos Bronson Alcott

How about we shake things up a bit? How about we stop “waiting” for things to clear, “waiting” for inspiration or “waiting” for someone else to give us a break? How about we “shift” our routine, “shift” the mundane, get un-stuck and bring a little excitement into our lives? The “Shake it Up, Try Something New Challenge” is easy. All you have to do is commit to doing something new, or something you haven’t done in a long time, every week for the next couple of months.

The new (or renewed) can be a simple as moving your mat to the other side of the room in yoga class or getting up early to go for a walk. Maybe discover a new restaurant or try a new food. Take an art class, visit a museum, or schedule lunch with a friend. It can also be more daring and out of the box like skydiving or climbing a mountain. Whatever it is for you that’s new or something you’ve wanted to do for a long time…go ahead. DO IT!

You can do this any time but I’m creating a Facebook Event on my Clairvoyant Readings by Debra page and you are welcome to join us! Feel free to leave your comments or post pictures about what you’re doing on the “Shake it Up, Try Something New Challenge” event on Facebook or just add your comments, thoughts or pictures here.

It’s time to get excited about doing something new! It helps shift your energy, feeds your spirit, gives you something to look forward to and will “shake you” out of your routine! Join us! Your spirit will thank you!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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