Living Loving Learning – Page 37

“Every morning I jump out of bed and step on a landmine. The landmine is me. After the explosion, I spent the rest of the day putting the pieces together.”~Ray Bradbury

There are times in life when we feel like we are, or about to, shatter into a million little pieces. Everything is falling apart and the overwhelm is a mountain that seems impossible to climb.

Believe it or not, this is a time to rejoice because when everything is falling apart, we are in the midst of a great spiritual healing; A reorganization of all that is. The explosion happens not because we are being punished but because we are more interested in the truth than the illusion.

While it is true it may take us time to put the pieces back together, more than likely we will put them together differently. Once shattered, we are able to see beyond the illusion. We are able to see beyond what we thought was there. We see the truth of who we are with greater clarity and are able to move forward with our creative design with more certainty.

What if the shattering isn’t about something coming apart as much as it’s about revealing something more? What if the shattering is the healing? What if the “landmines” you step on are more about blowing up the lies and those pieces you get to put back together create a stronger foundation because they are built on truth? What if the shattering is about becoming more?

Shifting, changing and healing causes major disruption and often feels like we are shattering into a million little pieces. It takes us out of our comfort zone, brings up fear and causes us to re-evaluate everything. Once shattered we may experience feeling raw and vulnerable BUT we also feel more like ourselves.

The beauty of things falling apart is each of us has the ability to create something completely different with the pieces. The shattering is, in effect, a personal renewal. A time to re-invent ourselves. A time to shine. When we shatter it is a time of reflection as we decide how to put the pieces back together.

We are the artist and we choose how we want to put the pieces back into place yet instead of a puzzle where all the pieces must fit together in a specific way, there are infinite possibilities. We can add color, depth and hue.

At one time or another each of us will wake up in the morning and step on a landmine which has been the illusion of truth. We change how we see ourselves and recognize that maybe we ARE who we think we are instead of who others tell us we are. We will pick up the pieces and re-organize our lives. We will organize around our own self.

We shatter, we look at the pieces, we begin the process of putting them back together in a new way. We integrate all that we are as we become more of who we are. We will heal our spirit and come together as one within so we may become one with the all.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Do you have a challenge when it comes to asking for what you want? Do you feel like you have to do everything alone? Do you “hint” at your wants and needs hoping someone “picks up on them?

More importantly do you refrain from bringing up what you want and need because you don’t want to “bother” or “burden” someone else?

“From what I’ve seen, it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us–it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one.”~Amanda Palmer

It takes a great deal of courage to be direct and ask for what we want and need. The Amanda Palmer quote really sums it up nicely. Many of us are challenged asking for help. We don’t want to be a “bother” but there is also another side of the equation to consider and, aside from needing to ask for help; Are we being clear and expressing to our loved ones and friends what we want and need from them day-to-day?

We move through our lives thinking people are going to figure us out. We hint, we hope and we think we are being clear but, and this is a BIG but, we may not be communicating as clearly as we think we are. Sometimes we circle round and round like a labyrinth until we finally arrive at our destination. Well my friends, the distance between two points does not have to include walking a maze with only one way in and one way out.

I admit I’m not always the best at voicing my wants and needs. What if I sound silly? What if someone doesn’t like what I’m saying? What if I’m perceived as not being a strong woman or the opposite, too pushy or bossy? No one wants to be perceived as “needy or weak, pushy or bossy” and sometimes it takes all I have to speak my truth and allow my vulnerable self to be seen.

We cannot be afraid of how we “think” others will perceive what we are saying. We should not ‘decide’ what someone else thinks, or what they will or won’t do, or how they will or won’t react to what we’re saying because the reality is we will, more than likely, be wrong.

To me asking for what I want and need, not in terms of needing help but sharing with others my vulnerabilities, is much like cracking open a closet filled to the brim. I’m afraid everything will come spilling out and I will be seen as incompetent, high maintenance or “less than” I am. The beauty of asking for what we want and need is that it is not only brave and vulnerable in that it tells someone about us it hopefully opens up a conversation so they can do the same with us.

Asking for what we want and need is not about demands, expectations or ultimatums. What I’m referring to is taking the guesswork out of the equation. While we can hope our loved ones and friends are aware and paying attention, people cannot read minds nor do most pick up on our so-called “cues” and hints. This is also not to say others can fully hear us and/or are open and available to give us what we want or need; But the fact is, at least we’ve verbally, to the best of our ability, communicated our wants and needs.

We can all use work on our communication and listening skills. We can all increase our awareness and pay more attention. If you are saying nothing then expecting something in your relationships you might want to have a look at the part YOU play in not having your wants and needs met.

If you happen to be blaming someone for not meeting your wants and needs ask yourself if you clearly and verbally communicated what they are. It seems more commonplace to let people “guess” and “assume” what we want than to speak from our heart and share what’s in there. Maybe we’re just afraid we’ll be disappointed if we speak up. Maybe we have in some way devalued our wants and needs and made others the priority.

Whatever stops you from clearly communicating your wants and needs, release it. You are important and your wants and needs have value. Be direct. Be brave. Be vulnerable. Be fearless. Be strong. Express what you want and need. Speak from the heart with love.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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