Energy Vampires are no Treat! Here are Tricks to deal with them

There are some people in this world who suck the life right out of you! You know the ones I’m talking about. The energy vampires! These are the “friends”, colleagues or family members who demand your attention and don’t respect your time, energy or space.

They test your patience, tax your last nerve and  leave you drained and exhausted when you’re around them. Energy vampires are very real and once they’ve gotten their fangs into you it is not only exhausting but the encounter can literally haunt you for days, months or in some cases even years!

Energy vampires don’t always know they are sucking the life out of you. They walk around like zombies full of negativity, drama and pain which they pass around until someone (who is usually trying to help them) becomes the dumping ground. The more you try to help by giving them advice, giving them your valuable time & energy and  giving them a forum to vent, the more you give away. That’s a lot of giving! Not to sound like Dr. Phil but what are you receiving from this relationship?

Yes, there are energy vampires out there but it is beneficial to look at your part in the relationship. What generally happens is you’ve given them permission to do this. You’ve given up your space to them. You are healing them and allowing solving their problems and their life process to become more important than your own.

When dealing with energy vampires as well as being exhausted, you are probably thinking about them and how to ‘help’ but you can’t solve someone else’s problems or take on their pain. Knowingly, why would you want to? It’s fine to want to help someone but if they can’t “have” the help you are giving and don’t take steps to heal themselves you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with them.

At some point after they’ve sucked the life out of you time and time again your awareness will kick in and you get angry. The funny (not haha funny) thing about an energy vampire is they’ve learned to do what they do much like Armand taught Lestat how to be a vampire in Anne Rice’s Vampire chronicles. In other words, by allowing them to continuously suck you dry, you’ve become a willing participant and they know it!

When dealing with energy vampires you will notice that most everything in the vampire’s life including friends, family and work relationships involve some sort of drama. If it’s not their personal drama they are probably complaining, blaming others or gossiping about someone else.

One reason you get sucked in to someone else’s drama is because you are sensitive to others pain. At some point you probably experienced the same or similar pain and you know how it feels. Take notice that you are most vulnerable when you are happy. It is said that misery loves company and energy vampires tend to bring you down to their level. It should come as no surprise that dealing with energy vampires is not easy.

If you are highly sensitive, have health issues and/or challenges of your own it is important to care for yourself first. Also, unfortunately,  you might have to end the relationship with your vampire friend. It’s never easy to sever a relationship of but sometimes it must be done for your own health and well-being.

Here are a few things to do when there’s an energy vampire on the loose:

  1. Forgive yourself! This is important. You were in a sense ‘sucked in’ to the negative vortex. Now that you recognize what’s happening you can effectively take your course of action.
  2. Forgive them and clear the resistance! Forgiveness is a powerful way to clear energy. Energy vampires have probably been sucking people dry for a very long time and don’t realize it. Forgiving doesn’t mean allowing them to do it. It means forgiving them and sending them on their way.
  3. Set boundaries and own your space! Do this from a non-effort, neutral place. Owning your space is the best way to set boundaries.
  4. Value your loving nature, time & energy! What you have to give has value. Your time & energy has value. Think of it as if it were money. How much would you give to others at the cost of your own needs?
  5. Cut the cords and raise your vibration! If necessary, you may need to end the relationship. No one can take your energy or drag you down without your permission at some level. I know that’s hard to hear but it really is up to you.

It is your right and within your power to say no and stop the energy vampire dead in their tracks! Call back your energy from the takers! Your happy life blood is yours to infuse into YOUR life! Help those who can receive your gifts and move on from those who suck you dry!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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Playing it Safe Doesn’t Serve You…

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”~Anais Nin

Finding safety and feeling safe is different from playing it safe. If you are not thinking outside of the box, creating new things and you expect things to change without opening up to new possibilities you are playing it safe! If your focus remains on one thing and one thing only, you are playing it safe!

If you wish to grow and expand you must open up, put yourself out there and take a chance. It does you no good to sit at home and wish for things to change if you are not willing to create that change. No one is going to do it for you nor can they put you out there…only you can do that. When you take steps to find the areas in your life where you are playing it safe because of fear, past hurt or invalidation you clear those limits. Yes, playing it safe is limiting yourself!

Trying new and different ways of doing things might even change your perspective on those things you’ve been safely holding on to! Opening the Pandora’s box of limiting beliefs and finding out if what you believe to be true really is your truth can be daunting to say the least. It is difficult because generally speaking one plays it safe because of an underlying pain which must be acknowledged before it clears.

Being the good little girl or boy (no matter how old you are) so people like you doesn’t serve you or anybody else. Everyone has a comfort zone and if you are operating and staying within that comfort zone everything will remain just as it is! Just because it’s called a comfort zone doesn’t mean it’s comfortable to be there. Oddly sometimes the pain of where you are is more comfortable than taking the risk of putting yourself out there because unconsciously, or consciously, there is a fear and the potential of more pain.

At some point it does become more painful to remain tight in the bud hiding so take a risk and bloom in all your glory! This might mean that everyone in the world might not like you or think you are nice but if you are doing the right thing, you are a good person at heart and treat others as you should, does that matter? If you are happy, owning who you are and living from your truth isn’t that the most important thing?

Scary as it might be, stop playing it safe and bloom! If things go horribly, horribly wrong find your amusement that at least you put it out there! Better to put it out there, have a new experience and learn than to never know in the first place!

Show the world your glorious being-ness! If you feel the need to go bungee jumping or skydiving it might be the very thing that brings you alive and I will guarantee it will move a lot of energy and programming out of your space! Come alive, take a risk and bloom!~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2012-2013 All rights reserved

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