Learning to Trust Yourself….

Pinkpetals© Joao Estevao Andrade De Freitas  Dreamstime Stock PhotosTrust yourself, you know more than you think you do.”~Benjamin Spock

Trust yourself and what you see, know and feel is true because there is no one who knows what’s best for you better than YOU!

From a young age we are taught that our parents know what’s best for us and, for the most part, at a young age this is true. In addition to our parents we have teachers and mentors whose principal role is to teach us how (and sometimes “what”) to think. At some point we must come to the realization that our parents, teachers and mentors were/are there to GUIDE us, not make decisions for us.

Why don’t we trust ourselves?

Why don’t we trust ourselves? The answer is simple, we made and continue to make mistakes. There’s that thing we did or said that went horribly, horribly wrong (or was perceived it went wrong) and before we move forward and possibly make another mistake, we look to another for THEIR answer. Isn’t it amusing that we trust other people and seek out their opinion about what’s best for us more than we trust ourselves.

It is far easier to take someone’s advice and not follow our hearts and intuition. After all, if we are wrong or make a mistake based on someone else’s advice there is someone to blame. When we fully trust in ourselves and our decisions we must then own up to and take responsibility for our choices.

There is another piece of the puzzle that we sometimes miss. Did we REALLY make a mistake or did things not turn out the way we thought they would? What if the perceived “mistake” wasn’t a mistake at all? What if those mistakes were really things that turned out unexpectedly right but we just couldn’t see the purpose at the time? We still may not see the purpose but in time, we will come to see the mistake was not really a mistake after all.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”~Golda Meir

At some point it’s time to trust yourself. You really do know more than you think you do. This is not to say you shouldn’t seek another’s council to help GUIDE you. The operative word being GUIDE. It is always beneficial to seek someone who may have a different perspective or a solution you haven’t yet discovered but in the end the choice is always yours and yours alone.

The more you trust your instincts, intuition and your knowing-ness the more certain you become.  The more you trust what you see and feel the more certain you become. The more you trust your decisions, the more certain you become. Trusting yourself is about “becoming” and believing in yourself. It is about strength, courage, truth and certainty.

There are infinite “inner sparks of possibility” that when fanned to burst into flames of inspiration. Learning to trust yourself means you may take a risk. You may find yourself vulnerable. You may find courage. You may create a masterpiece, and you may, you just may, find happiness, love and transform your journey and your life. Shine Your Light Debbie

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Be Unapologetically YOU!

Be unapologetically you!“Be yourself. The world worships the original.”~Ingrid Bergman

Today’s Healing Message: Be unapologetically YOU! Sometimes we think and act through our filters of invalidation.  We say (or do) or don’t say (or don’t do) something based on what we ‘think’ another person wants us to instead of saying or doing what’s really in our hearts.

If you are acting the way you “think” someone wants you to act or you’re saying what you “think” they want to hear you are not only NOT being true to yourself but you are sending a message to yourself that strengthens an unconscious belief you’re not good enough or what you have to say isn’t good enough. When you act or react in ways you “think” someone else expects, you are doing it from YOUR point of view not theirs.

“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.”~Jim Morrison

A friend or lover wants to know how you’re feeling. They want you to be you. How can they get to know the real YOU if you’re trying to be a version of you based on what YOU think they think? No one knows what’s going on in someone else’s head; Especially what they are thinking. Probably the scariest thing in the world to do is to show you are vulnerable. Speaking your heartfelt truth and acting on what comes from the heart does make you vulnerable. When you are not being yourself, you give up your freedom. You are also taking away someone else’s freedom.

Years ago I had a boyfriend who repeatedly lied to me about something rather significant. Significant in HIS mind that is. He kept this big “secret” about himself because of how he “thought” I’d react. As a clairvoyant I knew he was lying about something but never really knew what it was. When I finally got the nerve to confront him he came clean but here’s where is gets more interesting. What he told me was SO insignificant in my mind I kept saying “and…” waiting for some awful, horrible thing to be revealed.

He repeated what he  had told me and said ‘there’s no more. That’s it’. He assumed I would act or react completely differently than I did based on what HE thought I would think. For me it not only wasn’t horrible it told me who he REALLY is and I was fine with it. What he did, in effect, was take away my right to choose. My right to be me,  to make my own decision and respond how I wanted to respond. Of course I understand, and understood at the time, he lied because he was afraid I’d leave him if I knew the truth. (I did eventually break up with him but not because of what he told me that night.) What he was really doing was projecting how he felt about himself. His assumptions about how I would react were based on his thoughts and his thoughts alone.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Being UNAPOLOGETICALLY you is one of the hardest things any of us can do because it leaves us vulnerable, raw and open but it is precisely that vulnerability that strengthens and validates that who we are might not be so bad. Vulnerability is gentle strength and being vulnerable is empowering. None of us is omniscient and knows what another is thinking so what good does it do to project the feelings or thoughts we have about ourselves unto another?

Speak your truth. Work on being vulnerable and own it. Show others the true you and strive to be the best “you” you can be. Be unapologetically you! You might be surprised at the results!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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