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There are some people in this world who suck the life right out of you! You know the ones I’m talking about. They are energy vampires. These people demand your attention and don’t respect your time, energy or space. They test your patience, tax your last nerve and you are literally drained and exhausted when you’re around them. Energy vampires are very real and once they’ve gotten their fangs into you it is not only exhausting but the encounter can literally haunt you for days, months or in some cases even years!

Energy vampires don’t always know they are sucking the life out of you. They walk around like zombies full of negativity, drama and pain which they pass around until someone (who is usually trying to help them) becomes the dumping ground. The more you try to help by giving them advice, giving them your valuable time & energy and giving them a forum to vent, the more you give away. That’s a lot of giving! Not to sound like Dr. Phil but what are you receiving from this relationship?

Yes, there are energy vampires out there but it is beneficial to look at your part in the relationship. What generally happens is you’ve given them permission to do this. You’ve given up your space to them. You are healing them and allowing solving their problems and their life process to become more important than your own. When dealing with energy vampires as well as being exhausted, you are probably thinking about them and how to ‘help’ but you can’t solve someone else’s problems or take on their pain. Knowingly, why would you want to? It’s fine to want to help someone but if they can’t “have” the help you are giving and don’t take steps to heal themselves you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with them.

At some point after they’ve sucked the life out of you time and time again your awareness will kick in and you get angry. The funny (not haha funny) thing about an energy vampire is they’ve learned to do what they do much like Armand taught Lestat how to be a vampire in Anne Rice’s Vampire chronicles. If you continue to allow them to suck you dry, you have taught them it’s OK to do so. When dealing with energy vampires you will notice that most everything in the vampire’s life including friends, family and work relationships involve some sort of drama and if it’s not their personal drama they are probably complaining, blaming others or gossiping about someone else.

One reason you get sucked in to someone else’s drama is because you are sensitive to others pain because you’ve experienced it in one form or another. You’ll notice that you are most vulnerable when you are happy. It is said that misery loves company and energy vampires tend to bring you down to their level….if you allow it!

Here are a few things to do when there’s an energy vampire on the loose:

Forgive yourself! This is important. You were in a sense ‘sucked in’ to the negative vortex. Now that you recognize what’s happening you can effectively take your course of action.
Forgive them and clear the resistance! Forgiveness is a powerful way to clear energy. Energy vampires have probably been sucking people dry for a very long time and don’t realize it. Forgiving doesn’t mean allowing them to do it. It means forgiving them and sending them on their way.
Set boundaries and own your space! Do this from a non-effort, neutral place. Owning your space is the best way to set boundaries.
Value your loving nature, time & energy! What you have to give has value. Your time & energy has value. Think of it as if it were money. How much would you give to others at the cost of your own needs?
Cut the cords and raise your vibration! If necessary, you may need to end the relationship. No one can take your energy or drag you down without your permission at some level. I know that’s hard to hear but it really is up to you.

Dealing with energy vampires is never easy particularly if you are highly sensitive, have health issues and/or challenges of your own. My friend Jen Reynolds addresses this in a great piece she wrote for her Fibro TV blog. It’s never easy to sever a relationship of any kind but sometimes it must be done for your own health and well-being.

Remember it is your right and within your power to say no and stop the energy vampire dead in their tracks! Call back your energy from the takers! Your happy life blood is yours to infuse into YOUR life! Help those who can receive your gifts and move on from those who suck you dry!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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This week’s theme for the week is making it real. Making it real not only means manifesting those things your working on but having them and bringing the energy into your body to FEEL and be a part of it. What good is manifesting if you there’s no space for it or you can’t have whatever it is?

Often times in reading sessions a trend emerges. These trends are certain common themes several people are working on. This past week every person I read was working not just to mock-up (create) what they wanted but to actually bring it in, make it real and FEEL the energy in their body.

How do you make it real?

In order to make it real you have to make space for it both energetically and physically. Think of this as feng shui for spirit & body. 🙂 Making it real starts with clearing out what is not real (lies or programming you’ve perhaps bought in to) and raising your havingness for what you want. Again this means making space for something new to come in. While meditating, instead of the focusing on those things you want to let go of, allow yourself to bring in and fill up with YOUR energy vibration. Doing this will attract those things you want because your energy is…well…attractive! 🙂 How much can you have? Can you have all of YOU? If not I would definitely recommend you start there. If you can’t have YOU how can you have all those things you want?

How do you make a space for it?

Feng shui your physical and energetic space! Create beautiful surroundings that bring you peace, calm and happiness. Your physical space has an effect on your spiritual space and visa versa. Here are some examples: If you’re looking for relationship is there a space for it? Can you have it? Making physical space for a relationship is as simple as sleeping on one side of the bed so there’s a space for someone else on the other side or cleaning out your closet and making room for someone else’s clothing. In terms of law of attraction by doing this you are creating a space for someone else and shifting your energy so it feels like they are already there!

You must also clear out and make a space in your heart. If you are angry, your thoughts are filled with painful memories of past relationships or you are bitter over a break up, there is no space for love. Bring your own unique vibration of love into your heart and allow it to cascade out so you are sitting in a bubble of that energy. Again, don’t worry about letting go. Filling up with YOU clears the energy too!

If you’re looking for a job, what are you doing each day? Often times if you find a part-time job doing something you love, even if you don’t have the job you are seeking, energetically you are working. Your energy shifts into work mode and by doing something you love (even if it’s volunteering) you’ll feel good about yourself and begin to project that vibration out into the world. You are also out there being seen. If you’re sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself guess what gets sent out into the universe?

Whatever it is YOU are working on, making it real begins with having space. When both your physical and energetic space are in harmony, you can expand and create space for something new! Make it real inside AND out!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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