Meditation Tips – Page 37

There are some people in this world who suck the life right out of you! You know the ones I’m talking about. The energy vampires! These are the “friends”, colleagues or family members who demand your attention and don’t respect your time, energy or space. They test your patience, tax your last nerve and leave you drained and exhausted when you’re around them. Energy vampires are very real and once they’ve gotten their fangs into you it is not only exhausting but the encounter can literally haunt you for days, months or in some cases even years!

Energy vampires don’t always know they are sucking the life out of you. They walk around like zombies full of negativity, drama and pain which they pass around until someone (who is usually trying to help them) becomes the dumping ground. The more you try to help by giving them advice, giving them your valuable time & energy and giving them a forum to vent, the more you give away. That’s a lot of giving! Not to sound like Dr. Phil but what are you receiving from this relationship?

Yes, there are energy vampires out there but it is beneficial to look at your part in the relationship. What generally happens is you’ve given them permission to do this. You’ve given up your space to them. You are healing them and allowing solving their problems and their life process to become more important than your own. When dealing with energy vampires as well as being exhausted, you are probably thinking about them and how to ‘help’ but you can’t solve someone else’s problems or take on their pain. Knowingly, why would you want to? It’s fine to want to help someone but if they can’t “have” the help you are giving and don’t take steps to heal themselves you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with them.

At some point after they’ve sucked the life out of you time and time again your awareness will kick in and you get angry. The funny (not haha funny) thing about an energy vampire is they’ve learned to do what they do much like Armand taught Lestat how to be a vampire in Anne Rice’s Vampire chronicles. If you continue to allow them to suck you dry, you have taught them it’s OK to do so. When dealing with energy vampires you will notice that most everything in the vampire’s life including friends, family and work relationships involve some sort of drama and if it’s not their personal drama they are probably complaining, blaming others or gossiping about someone else.

One reason you get sucked in to someone else’s drama is because you are sensitive to others pain because you’ve experienced it in one form or another. You’ll notice that you are most vulnerable when you are happy. It is said that misery loves company and energy vampires tend to bring you down to their level if you allow it. It should be mentioned that dealing with energy vampires is not easy. If you are highly sensitive, have health issues and/or challenges of your own it is best to care for yourself first and you might have to end the relationship with your vampire friend. It’s never easy to sever a relationship of any kind but sometimes it must be done for your own health and well-being.

Here are a few things to do when there’s an energy vampire on the loose:

Forgive yourself! This is important. You were in a sense ‘sucked in’ to the negative vortex. Now that you recognize what’s happening you can effectively take your course of action.
Forgive them and clear the resistance! Forgiveness is a powerful way to clear energy. Energy vampires have probably been sucking people dry for a very long time and don’t realize it. Forgiving doesn’t mean allowing them to do it. It means forgiving them and sending them on their way.
Set boundaries and own your space! Do this from a non-effort, neutral place. Owning your space is the best way to set boundaries.
Value your loving nature, time & energy! What you have to give has value. Your time & energy has value. Think of it as if it were money. How much would you give to others at the cost of your own needs?
Cut the cords and raise your vibration! If necessary, you may need to end the relationship. No one can take your energy or drag you down without your permission at some level. I know that’s hard to hear but it really is up to you.

It is your right and within your power to say no and stop the energy vampire dead in their tracks! Call back your energy from the takers! Your happy life blood is yours to infuse into YOUR life! Help those who can receive your gifts and move on from those who suck you dry!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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To truly BE who you are it’s important to embrace ALL of who you are!

Fact: Love, joy, happiness, and passion are energy vibrations.
Fact: Boredom, apathy, sadness and ANGER are energy vibrations.

Can you have and embrace ALL of those emotions and feelings; The good the bad and the ugly? The positive AND the negative?

As human beings we have a full spectrum of emotions, feelings and energy vibrations that are not only a part of us but a part of being human. Denying, ignoring or stifling any of these vibrations limits you and in essence you are denying a part of yourself and the human experience. While it is true that as spiritual beings we are pure love, we took a body this lifetime to have a human experience and no matter how much you don’t want it to happen the fact remains that as humans we get angry, sad, bored, apathetic etc.

Most of us are taught not to get angry and to forgive those who have treated us badly. Forgiveness is wonderful BUT forgiving doesn’t mean allowing someone to treat you like a doormat or invalidate you. You cannot control what others say or do but it IS ok to get angry! It is also OK to use your anger as a healing. Here comes the tricky part; Allowing your anger to flow in YOUR space without lashing out or sending it out to someone.

Allowing your anger, or any other emotion or feeling for that matter, to flow through you is empowering. Giving yourself permission to have these perceived negative feelings is a step toward growing and expanding positive feelings and emotions like love, joy and happiness. The reason I used anger as an example is because it is one of the emotions that many people have very little permission to have. For you it may be some other emotion.

TRUTH: BODIES HAVE EMOTIONS

We all want to keep our focus on love and light and being happy (at least I’m in hopes that all of you reading this want those vibrations in the forefront) but the laws of nature need balance. ALL your emotions whether in the emotional body (energetic) or the physical body serve a purpose. From a young age boys are taught not to cry and girls not to get angry (or whatever else you were taught to stifle) but denying a part of you denies a portion of the other part. There is always a dichotomy and you can’t have one without the other. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Newton’s laws apply here too!

There is day and night, two sides to every coin, and a plethora of emotions & feelings each with a direct opposite that make up our very BEing-ness. Having your awareness and embracing those dark or negative parts of you in addition to light and love gives you the ability to expand your human experience.

You cannot, nor is it necessary to, control what you are feeling. If you are doing this you are in resistance and it’s going to fester and may ever cause you to get stuck. Allow feelings & emotions to bubble up and BE. Feel your feelings & emotions, embrace them, acknowledge them then release. Believe it or not the more you embrace and acknowledge what you are feeling the faster you are able to release it!

Embracing your anger and acknowledging it allows you to love that much more. Feeling your sadness allows you to experience more happiness. Having a good cry makes the laughter that much more joyful. Embrace the reality of human experience! HAVE all that you are! BE who you are! Accept and acknowledge ALL your feelings and emotions as a part of you!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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