Learning to Trust Yourself….

Pinkpetals© Joao Estevao Andrade De Freitas  Dreamstime Stock PhotosTrust yourself, you know more than you think you do.”~Benjamin Spock

Trust yourself and what you see, know and feel is true because there is no one who knows what’s best for you better than YOU!

From a young age we are taught that our parents know what’s best for us and, for the most part, at a young age this is true. In addition to our parents we have teachers and mentors whose principal role is to teach us how (and sometimes “what”) to think. At some point we must come to the realization that our parents, teachers and mentors were/are there to GUIDE us, not make decisions for us.

Why don’t we trust ourselves?

Why don’t we trust ourselves? The answer is simple, we made and continue to make mistakes. There’s that thing we did or said that went horribly, horribly wrong (or was perceived it went wrong) and before we move forward and possibly make another mistake, we look to another for THEIR answer. Isn’t it amusing that we trust other people and seek out their opinion about what’s best for us more than we trust ourselves.

It is far easier to take someone’s advice and not follow our hearts and intuition. After all, if we are wrong or make a mistake based on someone else’s advice there is someone to blame. When we fully trust in ourselves and our decisions we must then own up to and take responsibility for our choices.

There is another piece of the puzzle that we sometimes miss. Did we REALLY make a mistake or did things not turn out the way we thought they would? What if the perceived “mistake” wasn’t a mistake at all? What if those mistakes were really things that turned out unexpectedly right but we just couldn’t see the purpose at the time? We still may not see the purpose but in time, we will come to see the mistake was not really a mistake after all.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”~Golda Meir

At some point it’s time to trust yourself. You really do know more than you think you do. This is not to say you shouldn’t seek another’s council to help GUIDE you. The operative word being GUIDE. It is always beneficial to seek someone who may have a different perspective or a solution you haven’t yet discovered but in the end the choice is always yours and yours alone.

The more you trust your instincts, intuition and your knowing-ness the more certain you become.  The more you trust what you see and feel the more certain you become. The more you trust your decisions, the more certain you become. Trusting yourself is about “becoming” and believing in yourself. It is about strength, courage, truth and certainty.

There are infinite “inner sparks of possibility” that when fanned to burst into flames of inspiration. Learning to trust yourself means you may take a risk. You may find yourself vulnerable. You may find courage. You may create a masterpiece, and you may, you just may, find happiness, love and transform your journey and your life. Shine Your Light Debbie

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An epiphany about healing others

An Epiphany About Feeling Bad for Others

EpiphanyThis morning I woke up not feeling like myself. I felt isolated, invalidated, alone, depressed and dizzy. All I wanted to do was go back to bed and the dreary weather here isn’t helping. I sat down to meditate and reflect on what was happening. After all it’s not “like me”.

As I quieted the incessant ‘buzz’ in my head I slowly returned to center so I could see clearly again. Then, like a lightening bolt, it hit me. The feelings of isolation, invalidation, depression, were energy and pictures I gave up space to. This happens to everyone at one time or another and we don’t always realize it while we’re not feeling good.

Everyone is affected when their pictures get stimulated and when you work with energy as I do the ‘triggers’ are magnified because often I’m working with clients to clear those very pictures. Pictures are memories or energy from the past and they may be triggered by friends, family or even a seemingly innocuous Facebook post. What happened to me is I allowed myself to get stuck in pictures of feeling alone, isolated and wrong. I started asking the question ‘what’s wrong with me’ over and over again.The more I resisted the more entrenched I became trying to ‘fix’ what was wrong even if I didn’t know what it was.

It’s just energy and you lost your space!

When I realized it was energy I needed to clear that became senior to my reality I was finally able to ground myself and see (and reconnect with) the truth. I’m not isolated and I’m not alone. There’s nothing wrong with me. (I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me.) I was feeling bad for others and in the back of my mind it seemed familiar rather like a deja vu. When did I experience this feeling before? Another lightening bolt! I felt this way growing up!

Have you ever said you “feel bad” for others? Better question…how many times a day do you say it?

Here’s the thing, when you “feel bad” for others to the point of actually “feeling bad” you have allowed their pain to become your own. What they are going through becomes “senior” or more important than your own reality. This happens because at some level it is what YOU are working on. It is the energy and pictures from the past you are stuck in and if you don’t take back your energy and seniority from your own pictures you begin to match and possibly take on energy from others until you do.

Take back your power!

Once I started to find my own pictures and take back my power I began to look at how much energy from others I had taken on as I was healing them. Trust me…it was A LOT! All those people I “feel bad” for. Not as in they are victims but that they are going through something painful which I recognize because I have gone through something similar. 

To shift my energy I had to let go of “feeling bad”. After all what good is it if I match their energy and continue to feel bad? That comes under the guise “misery loves company”. No matter how long I’ve done healing work I continue to have to remind myself I am senior in my space and I slowly began to release the energy of others I had taken on by agreement. I also had to let go of all those painful memories when I felt bad and was feeling sorry for myself. I had to take back my seniority, my personal power, and return to the present and my vibration.

In the blink of an eye you can shift your energy!

If you’re “feeling bad” all the time check to see if someone around you is feeling bad and you’ve matched their energy. Notice if you’ve given your seniority to a picture or illusion of “feeling bad” from your past so much so that it’s become true for you now. Get real with yourself and acknowledge if you’ve healed others at the price of healing yourself. Find your epiphany about feeling bad for others and ask yourself if you really want to “feel bad” because someone else “feels bad”.

We “feel bad” when others are hurting but it’s important to realize we can hold their hand and comfort them but we don’t have to “feel bad” for them. Look at your own journey and heal yourself first. It shows others how to do it! If you really want to help others, shift your energy and raise your vibration. Take them by the energetic hand and raise them up! ~Shine Your Light Debbie 

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